Adam Lambert – Out Interview – Part One

Don’t miss Part 1 of the Adam Lambert interview with Out magazine. Adam is included in the magazine’s special “Out 100” issue, and he’s featured on the cover along with a few other notable members and friends of the GLBT community.

  • Out magazine’s Adam Lambert interview, Part 1 – HERE.

Adam, the “breakout star” of the list, continues his track record as an honest and articulate interview subject.   It helps that the interviewer, Shana Naomi Krochmal, asks the right questions.

After the jump, I’ve posted a few excerpts from the piece.   Be sure to read the entire interview, and check Out again next Monday for Part 2.

More after the JUMP…

Could expectations for your album be any bigger?
I know. It’s a lot of pressure right now, and it’s gotten to me a couple times. But, I think that what you were saying — about the show being a platform and being a machine and all that — I think what happens is, I’m one of the lucky people that have been in the industry a little bit. I haven’t necessarily been in the recording industry. Over the past couple of years I started working on some demos and things like that and wanting to get into it. But I’ve been in the theater industry for a long time. And I’ve lived in L.A. for eight years. And when you’re in the city of entertainment, and you open your eyes and you meet people and you hear stories and you have friends that have been through this and that, going onto a show like Idol, you get it, going into it. I think what happens is that a lot of people that they get are from a small town in the Midwest, or they were a student and now they just kind of sing on the side. The whole amateur aspect of the show is really interesting, because it creates accessible personalities for the audience to attach themselves to. That’s why it looks like a machine. Because the machine has to lead them around, these amateurs that don’t know what else to do. And I think that there are some people that come onto the show that are savvy, and they get how to play the show. And I guess that was me.

How do you describe your sexuality?
I think one of the things about the gay community that’s really interesting is that while people own their homosexuality, there is a strange aversion to letting the masculine and the feminine exist within you in a balanced way. And for me, personally, I feel I have a very strong masculine side, and I also have a very strong feminine side. And a lot of people are scared to live in that gray area. There’s boys out in Boystown that are either really fem or really butch. It’s at the extremes. I love when I meet people that are just kind of comfortable being both. And they don’t have to identify being really butch or really fem. Why? Why would you have to?

Kris seems like a real straight guy.
He is a real straight guy. He’s very straight. He’s just’ ¦cute.

He’s pretty.
He’s pretty. He’s a pretty boy. You know? And he’s nice. He’s a really nice guy. One of the things that I think is so refreshing and cool about him is that he’s from Arkansas — and this is me being small-minded — I just kinda figured that the acceptance of people like me in Arkansas is probably a lot lower than here. And he’s very open-minded to people’s lifestyles and he doesn’t judge. He’s a good guy.

To have someone who is very religious and who feels like that –
That’s the funny thing, is that he’s not very religious, I don’t know where he got that label. Danny [Gokey] is very religious.

Let’s talk about Michael Sarver, who seemed at first to be a religious guy who wasn’t very comfortable with you being gay. But when the tour encountered ‘God Hates Fags’  protesters, he was all over Twitter condemning them and defending you.
He’s got a really good heart, that guy. He does. And I think that he represents a large portion of our country, good people who are just scared of what they don’t know. We didn’t even have that many conversations about it directly, but it’s just another example of acceptance. We just got along with each other. He just wants everybody to like him, and he wants to like everybody. It’s very simple, what his needs are. And I have very similar needs. We cut up all the time, backstage and on the bus. We get along great. I think what he realized was that it doesn’t fucking matter. And he got past that.

Was Danny very religious in a way that made you uncomfortable?
No, never uncomfortable. Danny’s a little bit more fundamental in his views than I think Michael is. And I don’t think his views are going to change. But it didn’t get in the way. We had a number of conversations on religion and morality. And it wasn’t for either one of us to try to convince the other, it was just to kind of learn. He was very cool with that, just having a conversation. We had some really deep conversations about God.

Have you ever had any sex with a girl?
Oral.

You went down on her?
Uh-huh.

Was it gross, or it was just not what you wanted?
It was a little gross because I don’t think she was as clean as she could’ve been. It wasn’t the act of it that really turned me off. I don’t really remember. I was 18 and I was drunk. Or maybe I was 17… The point of the matter is that I would not rule it out. The idea is intriguing.

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308 Comments

  1. I like that Out interview. For those really offended about the “sing my face off/persona” comment, here is the context:

    If you were going to pick one thing to be remembered for, so far, what would it be?

    That I can sing my face off. I mean, that’s what I do. All this other stuff is part of a personality, persona thing surrounding that. I hope that people are like, ‘Oh, I like his voice. I like his music.’ 

    Puts the soundbyte in perspective, doesn’t it.

  2. Puts the soundbyte in perspective, doesn’t it.

    Yep. It does. And it’s a good thing when any of us can appraise our skills and talk about them positively without fear of being labeled “arrogant”. I really wanted to say that the other day but … my poor laptop took a break, and upgraded itself without my permission, at exactly the wrong moment.

  3. Love the Out interview. Love it. I suppose he said about 25 things in there that various folks can take exception to, but to me he comes across as smart, honest, grounded, generally open-hearted toward other people, and continuing to evolve. That’s really all I ask.

  4. I liked the OUT interview especially what he said about Danny and Michael – quelled some rumors. The part about the unclean girl I could have done without. I swear Adam has no secrets.

  5. Puts the soundbyte in perspective, doesn’t it.

    Yes, it sure does.

    And a lot fewer expletives in the entire interview on a per word basis. The short excerpt in the magazine was slightly misleading in a couple of ways.

  6. Aww..I love this part of the OUT interview about Sarver:

    Let’s talk about Michael Sarver, who seemed at first to be a religious guy who wasn’t very comfortable with you being gay. But when the tour encountered ‘God Hates Fags’  protesters, he was all over Twitter condemning them and defending you.

    He’s got a really good heart, that guy. He does. And I think that he represents a large portion of our country, good people who are just scared of what they don’t know. We didn’t even have that many conversations about it directly, but it’s just another example of acceptance. We just got along with each other. He just wants everybody to like him, and he wants to like everybody. It’s very simple, what his needs are. And I have very similar needs. We cut up all the time, backstage and on the bus. We get along great. I think what he realized was that it doesn’t fucking matter. And he got past that.

    Danny too, I knew they got along. I really do think that Danny has a good heart. His cousin, naaah, but Danny yes.

    Was Danny very religious in a way that made you uncomfortable?

    No, never uncomfortable. Danny’s a little bit more fundamental in his views than I think Michael is. And I don’t think his views are going to change. But it didn’t get in the way. We had a number of conversations on religion and morality. And it wasn’t for either one of us to try to convince the other, it was just to kind of learn. He was very cool with that, just having a conversation. We had some really deep conversations about God.

    I love that these guys seemed to really try and understand each other and their relationships were alot deeper than would seem on the surface. I love season 8.

  7. I would like for Danny and Michael to read what he had to say but I can’t see them buying Out Magazine ;p

  8. I would like for Danny and Michael to read what he had to say but I can’t see them buying Out Magazine ;p

    Maybe somebody can tweet them the url.

  9. Squirrely
    11/16/2009 at 2:10 pm
    I would like for Danny and Michael to read what he had to say but I can’t see them buying Out Magazine ;p

    That’s why I posted, squirrely, I bet they read MJ’s!!

  10. But I’ve been in the theater industry for a long time. And I’ve lived in L.A. for eight years. And when you’re in the city of entertainment, and you open your eyes and you meet people and you hear stories and you have friends that have been through this and that, going onto a show like Idol, you get it, going into it. I think what happens is that a lot of people that they get are from a small town in the Midwest, or they were a student and now they just kind of sing on the side. The whole amateur aspect of the show is really interesting, because it creates accessible personalities for the audience to attach themselves to. That’s why it looks like a machine. Because the machine has to lead them around, these amateurs that don’t know what else to do. And I think that there are some people that come onto the show that are savvy, and they get how to play the show. And I guess that was me.

    I love this OUT quote. I never understood why fans of AI clasp so firmly on to “discovering a completely unknown artist”.. like plucking a waitress out of a dinner from some small town. Every viable idol on AI has had some sort of background in performing at least semi professionally. Otherwise they are pretty much just laughed at (like Meghan).

  11. Love the “Out” interview because it’s Adam answering the questions. A lot of sexuality questions, but that’s the focus of this issue of the magazine. No hemming and hawing, just answering. I wouldn’t want him any other way.

  12. And ok I will say it!!! Oral sex for any 17 year old is “ewwwwww” well maybe not any but most.. :-)

  13. 4evrmomof4
    11/16/2009 at 2:12 pm
    This article sets back acceptance, imo:

    http://gawker.com/5405847/adam-lambert-tries-to-play-it-straight-on-the-cover-of-big-gay-magazine

    If you look back during the season Gawker has always been anti-Adam. I didn’t expect anything different. He can talk about how proud he is of his sexuality, how he’s been living as an Out gay man for 8 years, how acceptance should be the norm and he will still be criticized for it at that site. They criticized the Rolling Stone interview in much the same way. No sense worrying about it.

  14. 4evrmomof4
    11/16/2009 at 2:12 pm
    This article sets back acceptance, imo:

    http://gawker.com/5405847/adam-lambert-tries-to-play-it-straight-on-the-cover-of-big-gay-magazine

    Seems the Gay community wants to put Adam in a Box too.. must be frustrating!!!!

    I have some gay male friends who now say they’re no longer fans of Adam after the Details photo shoot and comments like this. In their opinion, he’s pandering to pick up female and maybe straight male fans, period.

    I guess that, even with an opener climate toward homosexuality, the “sexuality is kinda fluid” crowd still is on the outs with nearly everybody! I’m sure Adam isn’t surprised, really.

  15. Have you already gotten your scandalous past out of the way?
    I do feel like a lot of its behind me, and that feels good.

    “a LOT of its behind me”?? Ruh, roh, is there more?

  16. Seems the Gay community wants to put Adam in a Box too.. must be frustrating!!!!

    Nah…I just think they’re good at recognizing bullshit.

  17. May
    11/16/2009 at 2:28 pm
    Seems the Gay community wants to put Adam in a Box too.. must be frustrating!!!!

    Nah’ ¦I just think they’re good at recognizing bullshit.

    What part did you (or Out) find to be BS?

  18. May
    11/16/2009 at 2:28 pm
    Seems the Gay community wants to put Adam in a Box too.. must be frustrating!!!!

    Nah’ ¦I just think they’re good at recognizing bullshit.

    Hmmmmmm really if that was the case then I would have expected the artical to be written differently.. but then I tend to take people at face value… so sue me.. lol

  19. 4evermomof4, Gawker is a stir the pot e-rag, interested in nothing but snark-a-sleaze hits.

    Patty H:…No hemming and hawing, just answering.

    And it’s just part one! The Out Magazine interview was fascinating. How can you have 10,000 women a night beaming lava level “Want you, want you” beams and not have a smidgen of curiousity about something you’ve never experienced before? Curious in an actually old-fashioned sense of the word. Wondering what that’s like.

    Have to admire Adam’s resolution to stick to his “you cant box me in” beliefs. Kind of both starting a revolution while trying to sit on the side-lines of the one already happening.

    The combination of his espousing 1) It’s time for no one’s sexuality to define them. And 2) Forthright curiosity will be interesting to watch.
    He wants nothing to limit him. And he says in the article he plans on “toying with the imagery” of the expected one-way-or-the-other stereotypes within both gay and hetero culture. So he’s going to get attacked by a broad range of snarkers, doubters, and political hay makers, even as he says music — and entertainment — is his first cause.

  20. I guess that, even with an opener climate toward homosexuality, the ‘sexuality is kinda fluid’  crowd still is on the outs with nearly everybody! I’m sure Adam isn’t surprised, really.

    Well there are a lot of schims in the GLBT community. Which is to be expected that it isn’t monolithic, and that’s fine. But I think there are generational shifts in attitudes. I noticed the same thing with Feminists, that there are different attitudes and breaks, between some of the older guard and younger ones. I don’t really know enough about other groups to know if that is the case say, Hispanics or African American.

  21. 4evrmomof4: This article sets back acceptance, imo:
    http://gawker.com/5405847/adam-lambert-tries-to-play-it-straight-on-the-cover-of-big-gay-magazine
    Seems the Gay community wants to put Adam in a Box too.. must be frustrating!!!!

    lucy: I guess that, even with an opener climate toward homosexuality, the ‘sexuality is kinda fluid’  crowd still is on the outs with nearly everybody! I’m sure Adam isn’t surprised, really.

    Hence the two quotes that Gawker *didn’t* put in their article:

    From page 2 of the OUT article:
    “One of the things that I don’t like about the gay community is that people define themselves by their sexuality — and that’s bullshit. It shouldn’t be about that. It should be that it just so happens that you’re this or that, and that’s your sexuality. It doesn’t mean that that should dictate what your social group is or where you go out or who you talk to or what your interests are. That’s bullshit. That’s outdated.”

    “I think one of the things about the gay community that’s really interesting is that while people own their homosexuality, there is a strange aversion to letting the masculine and the feminine exist within you in a balanced way. And for me, personally, I feel I have a very strong masculine side, and I also have a very strong feminine side. And a lot of people are scared to live in that gray area. There’s boys out in Boystown that are either really fem or really butch. It’s at the extremes. I love when I meet people that are just kind of comfortable being both. And they don’t have to identify being really butch or really fem. Why? Why would you have to? “

  22. How can you have 10,000 women a night beaming lava level ‘Want you, want you’  beams and not have a smidgen of curiousity about something you’ve never experienced before?

    Well, if his responses in the OUT interview are to be belived, he’s “experienced” a lot more of the female form than a lot of straight men.

    And yeah, I totally think it’s bullshit specifically done to keep the female fans on tenterhooks. He tried it, he hated it, he identifies as 100% gay in every interview he’s done, and there’s no reason to think he’d ever want to hook up with a woman again (although he’s said, right, that he might if he were drunk enough? Cause that’s totally flattering — yeah, if I was blind drunk, so drunk I don’t know where I’m sticking my dick, I could, you know, fall into a woman by accident or something…)

    Although maybe he thinks he’ll follow David Bowie on the bicurious then maybe straight path. That would be entertaining. And he IS here for our entertainment.

  23. And ok I will say it!!! Oral sex for any 17 year old is ‘ewwwwww’  well maybe not any but most..

    Now, that really just made me laugh out loud!

  24. Hmmmmmm really if that was the case then I would have expected the artical to be written differently.. but then I tend to take people at face value’ ¦ so sue me.. lol

    The article is titled “Adam Lambert Tries to Play It Straight on the Cover of Big Gay Magazine”. I took that title at face value. Then there is this part:

    We love that you’re trying to blur the lines of sexuality, Adam, but you’re not especially convincing when you say “Ew gross, it smells like fish!” in one sentence and then, “I’d still hit it,” in the next. And you’re doing this wearing eyeliner and a bowtie in a magazine that is about as straight as a piece of spaghetti in boiling water. Why not just be happy being a man-loving homo? There’s no shame in that. Especially for Out readers who would much rather hear about what Kris Allen looks like in his boxers than about your lady lust.

    So yes, I do think the people writing this article were sifting out the bs…but doing it “nicely”.

  25. HoppersSkippersMiners
    11/16/2009 at 2:41 pm
    Hence the two quotes that Gawker *didn’t* put in their article:

    Hoppers, you quoted my favorite parts of the Out article. I’m even going to email those two quote to my husband so he can see that Adam still defies definition.

  26. May
    11/16/2009 at 2:47 pm
    We love that you’re trying to blur the lines of sexuality, Adam, but you’re not especially convincing when you say ‘Ew gross, it smells like fish!’  in one sentence and then, ‘I’d still hit it,’  in the next.

    Trouble is, May, that isn’t what Adam said. Love that Gawker put quotes around their paraphrases of Adam’s comments. Way to mislead and make him sound trashy, Gawker.

  27. How can you have 10,000 women a night beaming lava level ‘Want you, want you’  beams and not have a smidgen of curiousity about something you’ve never experienced before?

    Well, if his responses in the OUT interview are to be belived, he’s ‘experienced’  a lot more of the female form than a lot of straight men.

    I’m not getting what you’re saying. He was asked if he had many GAY men hitting on him, and he said that no, that is was mostly women. Lots of women. And the reporter then followed up to say ‘well maybe it was because it was an AI concert,’ and Adam was like ‘good point.’ To which I say, HA! OUT magazine, nice try. The fact is that is the one that most of the gay male community has been drooling over was Kris Allen. I mean Adam said that he found Kris cute, so it’s no surprising that could be a fairly typical response of the gay male community. Which would be fine if it stopped there, but typically from what I’ve seen, and OUT doesn’t really talk about it, there are then all the nasty comments on Adam about how he’s too fat, something his skin, and of course, the being too effeminate discussion can arise.

    I think AfterEltons original article “Butch It Up,” which referenced Adam as well as their response to the Newsweek article (that mentioned Adam as hurting the gay community) speak to these kinds of attitudes within parts of the gay community, specifically gay male community. I haven’t dealt with that kind of thing from most of my lesbian or transgendered friends, but that’s just my experience.

  28. Adam Lambert Tries to Play It Straight on the Cover of Big Gay Magazine

    Kinda a contradition is’nt it.. Why would he play it “Straight” for a gay Mag. Not to his benifit to do so.

  29. I don’t take Gawker seriously either, thespindleshay, but I abhorr the fact that they paraphrased him and put quotes around it like those were his exact words. Can’t wait til that hits the twitterverse. Smellygate all over again. The boy can’t win for losing. <—LOL, I made a funny!

  30. Hey, I think that out interview was really, really good. He got some very interesting stuff to say there… makes you think. Like what he said about Kris, Danny and Michael too. And the idol machinery… and being gay… and the choices he made…

  31. Gawker is being its usual crass self. Take anything written there with a large grain of salt and the knowledge that this is the sort of article they adore writing. The editors there love skeezy sleeze like pigs love muck. Hence the name “Gawker”.

  32. I’m sure this will spur some crazy responses.. but sexuality is not that cut and dry or black and white. People’s sexuality runs on a spectrum – hence the words bi-sexual. I believe whole heartedly that Adam is gay thru and thru, but so are alot of people who ‘experiment’.I don’t know whether he is BSing everyone or not (don’t much care), but with his proclivity for taking risks, I would be surprised if he found himself in bed with some groupie in a few years. LOL He may be startled after he awakens with a hangover… though still it wouldn’t surprise me when it hits the tabloids.

  33. The Gawker blurb doesn’t even make sense. And they made up a quote, which I’m sure all the “lazy journalists” will pick up as something Adam actually said!

    See, someone here already believes that Adam said it!

    “Trouble is, May, that isn’t what Adam said. Love that Gawker put quotes around their paraphrases of Adam’s comments. Way to mislead and make him sound trashy, Gawker.”

  34. Here is my take on what gay is.. Its not who your having sex with its who you make that special connection with.. and 9 times out of 10 a gay person will make that special connection with the same sex. But thats just me and how I see it.. other like to make it all complicated.. to me it isn’t it just is.

  35. May
    11/16/2009 at 2:47 pm
    We love that you’re trying to blur the lines of sexuality, Adam, but you’re not especially convincing when you say ‘Ew gross, it smells like fish!’  in one sentence and then, ‘I’d still hit it,’  in the next.

    Trouble is, May, that isn’t what Adam said. Love that Gawker put quotes around their paraphrases of Adam’s comments. Way to mislead and make him sound trashy, Gawker.

    Perfectly put, because as you say, rowenaaine, they put quotes around paraphrases. Which ummm I was taught that if paraphrasing you put ‘ ‘ around them, and not actual quotes.

    And as for their ‘ewwwww tastes like fish,’ so-called quote, Adam just said that the person he happened to have had oral sex with, had that not so fresh thing happening with their personal hygenie. I’m sure it’s happened to him with guys as well, and he probably didn’t enjoy it for the same reason. But doesn’t mean he thought the act itself was icky, just that the individual involved made it less than nice with some less than stellar hygenine. I remember a Sex In The City act where Charlotte was telling her guy that he needed to shave, doesn’t mean she stopped liking the act, just the guy she having it with.

    And I’m really trying not to get too graphic here, but it’s a topic where that isn’t totally possible.

  36. He’s taking queues from Bowie with the whole gender bending posture following the swastika controversy. But I think Bowie played the gay men more convincingly than Adam plays the straight guy.

  37. Adam is gay… curious or not he has never had sex with a girl and never will.

    I wonder if Fergie lost any fans because she outed herself as bisexual. I doubt it.

  38. valentin32: He’s taking queues from Bowie with the whole gender bending posture following the swastika controversy. But I think Bowie played the gay men more convincingly than Adam plays the straight guy.

    What swastika controversy? Oh yeah in the land of the worsters that’s where. What bullshit but that’s all they talk over there anyway is bullshit.

  39. When straight men or straight women play gay roles in movies and tv (even with kissing scenes), do their fans abandon and criticize them? What about gay men and women playing straight roles, do all their fans abandom them?

  40. following the swastika controversy.

    That was a controversy? I thought it was just bored people with nothing better to do.

    I think Adam is curious but not be curious enough to act on it. I don’t think he’s trying to play straight but if he does f*ck a woman will the world end? um no.

  41. Just read the Out interview – a good read overall. Lol to TMI-Adam :-)

  42. What swastika controversy? Oh yeah in the land of the worsters that’s where. What bullshit.

    I still gotta laugh at that one though- it was like Gretchen in Mean Girls trying to make “fetch” happen :)

  43. What swastika controversy? Oh yeah in the land of the worsters that’s where. What bullshit.

    It was BS, thankfully it got nowhere.

    I think Adam is curious but not be curious enough to act on it. I don’t think he’s trying to play straight but if he does f*ck a woman will the world end? um no.

    I just don’t believe what he is saying in the interview, to me it looks like he is trying to emphasize this side of him to create more controversy, just like Bowie did in the 70’s just to deny it 20 years later.

    It doesn’t make me dislike Bowie’s or Adam’s music tough

  44. I think Adam is curious but not be curious enough to act on it. I don’t think he’s trying to play straight but if he does f*ck a woman will the world end? um no.

    I don’t know.. or really care.. this is a fun conversation. But, if a guy could wear platform boots, skin tight shiny pants, c0ck ring adapted accessories… why is it so hard to believe that (even against his nature) he wouldn’t sleep with some woman after a drunken night? It would probably never happen – though to say it is out of the realm of possibility is kinda funny.

  45. Well, if his responses in the OUT interview are to be belived, he’s ‘experienced’  a lot more of the female form than a lot of straight men.

    I’m not getting what you’re saying.

    I’m saying he went down on a woman. It’s in the interview. That’s “experience” in my book. Unless cunnilingus isn’t sex. Which I think it is. Suggesting he has never experienced sex with a woman is bogus IMO if he’s going to talk about his mouth on her genitalia in an interview. I don’t think it depends on what the definition of “is” is, either.

    And all of this is WAY too much information for me. I don’t care whether he’s gay, straight, married, or from Mars and has sixteen penises (penii?) instead of one — I don’t want to hear about the intimate details of his sex life in his interviews. Which is I guess why I will try my darnedest not to read them from here on.

  46. I just don’t believe what he is saying in the interview, to me it looks like he is trying to emphasize this side of him to create more controversy, just like Bowie did in the 70’s just to deny it 20 years later.

    It doesn’t make me dislike Bowie’s or Adam’s music tough

    I just don’t get why everyone is trying to define the kid – that’s his job, let him do it.

  47. And yeah, I totally think it’s bullshit specifically done to keep the female fans on tenterhooks. He tried it, he hated it,


    smartcookie
    , he didn’t say that. He said he’s never tried it. Hate is not part of his vocabulary. He said he’s curious. Not about his sexuality, but what the experience is like. But because he’s never experienced it. And my point was this kind of natural curiosity, in the classic sense of the word — gee wonder what that feels like — has to be increased by being on the receiving end of such enormous waves of sexual projection.

    If he had been the gay star of his college drama department, he like millions of others might have explored his curiosity in college, but he never went to college,

    Writing persuasive, highly targeted bullshit is among the ways I’ve prospered professionally, and prominent among the karma I work daily to transform. Not sniffing bullshit here. While yes, it’s true, it seems like it would serve Adam in a marketing sense to “toy with the imagery” of no firm lines of hetero/homo sexuality. In fact, it does not. Because the one way Adam can lose his devoted fanbase is by lying.

    Saying he refuses to accept that gay men have to be a certain way, and be a certain defined thing, and fit certain stereotypes will gain him no friends in the political power structure of movement politics. But it is revolutionary.

    Everything he said in that article will provoke all the slings and arrows of trashy sites and established power bases saying “He’s not being gay enough”. When what Adam is saying is there is no such meter in my world. I don’t care what you say a gay man “has to be”. I am gay. Irrefutably. And that is not the most important thing about me. And sexuality, for many people, has no firm line. And it’s time we recognized that, and stopped talking about it before we discuss people’s talents.

    But, being the first gay man aiming for international stardom and having sexual magnetism be part of your appeal isn’t going to be without a whole lotta controversy.

  48. Isn’t sexuality on a scale of 1-10 (isn’t this the Kinsey scale?), and it’s hetero/homosexual, and then somewhere in between? Of course, anyone can define himself anyway he/she wants to. I have had several female friends who wanted to try out “being with other girls” (and not just in college). A couple then decided to declare themselves lesbians, and others said no, it was just to see and they decided they were, in fact, straight. A friend of mine didn’t make her gender preference into her mid-20s, and a supervisor of mine lived with a woman off and on for many years, but was also interested in men (not sure if she defined herself as bi).

    And we don’t know if Adam will ever have sex with a woman, and it’s really not our business, IMO.

  49. It would probably never happen ‘“ though to say it is out of the realm of possibility is kinda funny.

    It didn’t say it was. And as you said I don’t really care if he does or not.

    Rereading my comment the wording is supposed to be ‘maybe not curious’ instead of ‘not be’

  50. smartcookie
    11/16/2009 at 3:21 pm
    I’m saying he went down on a woman. It’s in the interview. That’s ‘experience’  in my book. Unless cunnilingus isn’t sex. Which I think it is. Suggesting he has never experienced sex with a woman is bogus IMO if he’s going to talk about his mouth on her genitalia in an interview. I don’t think it depends on what the definition of ‘is’  is, either.

    And all of this is WAY too much information for me. I don’t care whether he’s gay, straight, married, or from Mars and has sixteen penises (penii?) instead of one ‘” I don’t want to hear about the intimate details of his sex life in his interviews. Which is I guess why I will try my darnedest not to read them from here on.

    smartcookie, I don’t mean to offend, but Adam confessed that he’d had oral sex with a woman in the Rolling Stone interview. Granted he didn’t say whether he was giving or receiving, but the words were already out there. This isn’t new information. The interviewer asked the question. Should Adam have said “no comment”? He’s not the first gay man to have had sexual experiences with women. And yes, there is a difference between penatrative sex and oral sex. Not to debate the finer points, but one divests you of your virginity, the other does not. Adam has maintained he was a virgin until he was 21. This admission does not change that fact.

    Bottom line, whether it is TMI or not, if interviewers ask, Adam will answer. We might be disillusioned or turned off (or not), but it’s called honesty. (Or, according to some websites, it’s called bullshit, I guess. LOL)

  51. he didn’t say that. He said he’s never tried it. Hate is not part of his vocabulary. He said he’s curious. Not about his sexuality, but what the experience is like.

    Exactly – I’m straight but I kissed a girl out of curiosity and – not to be cliche- I liked it, but not enough to do it again.

  52. And we don’t know if Adam will ever have sex with a woman, and it’s really not our business, IMO.

    followed by

    All I know is that there was no adds for Danny’s song on country radio today

    I tell you, the topics in today’s headlines thread are all over the map! :)

    I take Adam at face value. It’s so much easier in life to say what you mean and mean what you say. I appears to me that is a lesson Adam learned as a kid from his terrific parents.

    And too bad about no adds for Danny, but didn’t the single just come out. It’s kind of like FYE. It’s out and then to adds in 48 hours. I suspect it will get more next week.

  53. FifthHouseSun
    11/16/2009 at 3:24 pm
    Everything he said in that article will provoke all the slings and arrows of trashy sites and established power bases saying ‘He’s not being gay enough’ . When what Adam is saying is there is no such meter in my world. I don’t care what you say a gay man ‘has to be’ . I am gay. Irrefutably. And that is not the most important thing about me. And sexuality, for many people, has no firm line. And it’s time we recognized that, and stopped talking about it before we discuss people’s talents.

    But, being the first gay man aiming for international stardom and having sexual magnetism be part of your appeal isn’t going to be without a whole lotta controversy.

    Fifth House Sun, can I marry you? Because your whole comment was beautiful but these two paragraphs in particular really seem to get at the heart of my complaint against those in the gay community that will not support Adam. “Not gay enough” from them…”too gay” from the conservative heterosexuals.

    What can he be then? Asexual? Is that what people want? It worked for Morrissey I guess, to an extent…but it’s awfully boring – for him and for his fans!

    The Out interview was, excluding the LA Times 4-parter, the most comprehensive I’ve seen to date. And we only read the first part. Can’t wait until Monday. Oh wait, I was already looking forward to Monday for album drop. I have a busy Adam calendar coming up, I guess.

  54. Yep I am one of those Kissed a girl but it did’nt really click, there was no attraction.. but then I also would’nt say that some other woman some day won’t attract me… you never know.. its all about connection.

  55. Spinastory let’s sing – I kissed a Girl and I kind of sorta liked it ;)

  56. I loved the Out article, the Gawker article just made me laugh. I suppose it wasn’t meant to be funny but I’m getting used to Adam getting little love from people who insist that he has to follow a prescribed sexuality.

  57. I found this interesting in Adam’s extended OUT Magazine interview:

    To have someone (Kris) who is very religious and who feels like that —
    That’s the funny thing, is that he’s not very religious, I don’t know where he got that label. Danny [Gokey] is very religious.

  58. I don’t want to hear about the intimate details of his sex life in his interviews. Which is I guess why I will try my darnedest not to read them from here on.

    I think that I, for one, probably have looked at, read about, listened to a lot of “stuff” that I wouldn’t normally do in real life as I have been more into fandom than I have ever been in my life. And, to be honest, without the internet I probably wouldn’t read, see, or listen to even a small fraction of what I do.

    As fans and non-fans we are exposed to a lot of information that we wouldn’t normally take the time or effort to search out….how many of us would, really, give OUT or DETAILS a first glance, much less a second in the Real World.

    So we have opened ourselves up to information that we would probably never have seen or heard…and sadly, this information may make us very uncomfortable with those we have chosen to endorse to the point that this discomfort then becomes a reason to abandon someone we really like and oftentimes to lash out because of our self-induced overload of information.

    Sometimes I would just like to turn the clock back and just buy an album because I like the guys music…without giving a rat’s ass about finding anything about them. It would sure keep my sanity intack.

  59. Not sniffing bullshit here. While yes, it’s true, it seems like it would serve Adam in a marketing sense to ‘toy with the imagery’  of no firm lines of hetero/homo sexuality. In fact, it does not. Because the one way Adam can lose his devoted fanbase is by lying.

    I’m not sniffing bullshit here either, FifthHouseSun. Especially when he talks about how even experimenting is threatening on a personal level because it calls into question his sense of self-identity. But ultimately he reaches a very Adamesque conclusion, that potentially there are many sides to him, just as there are many looks and many sounds. To me that rings thoughtful and true.

    Adam: Well, it’s threatening personally because you start identifying as a certain thing for so long, the idea of kind of going outside of that is scary because you’re like, ‘But that’s who I am!’  Being curious and embracing that curiosity is all a part of what I’m about. You don’t have to be any one thing. You can kinda just be. Just live your life — and play.

    He even sounds reflective when talking about the type of guy he’s attracted to –

    And also, if you’re one of these, then you must be attracted to the other. Are you attracted to guys like you?

    Adam: I don’t even know anymore. I think when I was younger, I could box in what my sexuality was about, what’s my type and all that. But as I’ve gotten older, and just learned more about myself and the world, it’s not really about type anymore. I mean, if someone’s hot, they’re hot. If someone’s interesting, they’re interesting. If you have an energy and a chemistry with someone, then you have chemistry. Done. You can’t really define that or explain it. It just is. You just meet people and you click, or you don’t. You know? [Pauses.] Although — I like pretty boys.

    I don’t sense any BS “specifically done to keep the female fans on tenderhooks” here – just a whole lot of honesty and self-reflection.

  60. This is what my gay friend said about Gawker when I asked him what their problem was.

    I dunno, but the comments on Gawker are cracking my shit up.

    I think there is a tendency to overreact in the gay community because there is a level of straightwashing that does happen in our society… a lot really; however, I don’t think people need to jump on everything as being a straightwash and freak out over every little thing.

    Crazy homos, chill. Life is short. Relax and enjoy it, ya know? ;)

  61. . Which is I guess why I will try my darnedest not to read them from here on.

    Probably a good idea! Especially from a publication like Out Magazine.

    . I don’t care whether he’s gay, straight, married, or from Mars and has sixteen penises (penii?) instead of one

    Count me in on the group that would like to know it if this was the case!

  62. I truly respect his reflective and open nature, it is a sign of a confident personality that is not afraid to change and develop as new life experiences bring different things into focus.

    Many people do not understand that just as there are grays in personality traits, so can there be grays and spectrum of sexuality.

    I can attest to that from the personal perspective as a stated middle aged heterosexual female, at times ranges of sexuality can seem ‘fluid’ than other times…

  63. I really do love what he said about Michael and Danny. I always hear him talk about Kris it’s nice to hear his thoughts about others he’s spent so much time with.

  64. What struck me the most in this interview “I think one of the things about the gay community that’s really interesting is that while people own their homosexuality, there is a strange aversion to letting the masculine and the feminine exist within you in a balanced way. And for me, personally, I feel I have a very strong masculine side, and I also have a very strong feminine side. And a lot of people are scared to live in that gray area.

    “The segregation [from straight people] that exists in the gay community is outdated. ”

    One of the things that I don’t like about the gay community is that people define themselves by their sexuality — and that’s bullshit. It shouldn’t be about that. It should be that it just so happens that you’re this or that, and that’s your sexuality. It doesn’t mean that that should dictate what your social group is or where you go out or who you talk to or what your interests are. That’s bullshit. That’s outdated.

    I agree with everything he says. He’s such a smart articulate young man,.

  65. It’s amazing that after hundreds of interviews this year, ShanaNaomi Krochmal was able to bring us new information about how Adam perceives expectations about his sexuality, relationships with other Idols, fan expectations, his music and himself. When so much of the media is not worth our time, these three pages in Out are well-worth reading.

  66. Love this article and can’t wait to see part 2. It does seem sad that Adam does not appear to have much support from a large portion of the gay community. What he is doing is brave. He seems to be getting slings and arrows from both the hetero and gay community.

  67. I loved this interview. His thoughts on Michael and Danny were really wonderful and I’m comforted in knowing that they were able to communicate with each other honestly and openly. I knew the Michael Sarver attitude change, because he expressed it himself in many interviews. My favorite part of that section about Michael was this:

    We just got along with each other. He just wants everybody to like him, and he wants to like everybody. It’s very simple, what his needs are. And I have very similar needs.

    Isn’t that what alot of our simple needs are?

    I also love the Danny/Adam interaction where Adam states:

    We had a number of conversations on religion and morality. And it wasn’t for either one of us to try to convince the other, it was just to kind of learn. He was very cool with that, just having a conversation. We had some really deep conversations about God.

    This actually makes me feel more positive about Danny than I have before. I think he got a bad rap, primarily because of his cousin, who I still think has major issues. But I do love that these guys were able to discuss serious and deep life issues and respect each other enough to listen and learn.

  68. Aside from the 4-part LA Times interview, the Out magazine piece has been the most enlightening and comprehensive of Adam’s interviews to date. He obviously felt comfortable and was allowed to complete his thoughts when he responded rather than go for the soundbite. Nicely done, and we’ve only seen Part One so far! I appreciate his candor, his thoughtful responses (and that the interviewer indicates when Adam is thinking through his response) and his poise. Articulate doesn’t begin to describe this young man. Too bad the print edition couldn’t have shown this side of him, rather than the snippet that went with his photos.

  69. Re. the OUT article … I’m inclined to take Adam Lambert at his word about more or less everything … because he doesn’t seem to self-censor too well …. but if he is just keeping his female fans on fantasy tenterhooks … well … it’s entertainment … don’t you think?

    Actually, partial kidding aside, I think the OUT interviewer pursued him on this as much as anybody ever will (and as much as anybody has a right to) … so … enough all ready about that. We’ll never know more than this and we’ll never know it with any more certainty than this.

  70. The love and acceptance of our favorite idol are unconditional, I know. But what is loveable about any of what Adam just said?

  71. I find it funny that the mere fact Adam calling himself gay is not enough and questioned by anyone most especially the members of the gay community. I agree with Adam stereotypical definitions of anyone by anyone including the community of said definitions reduces that person and that community to a cliche. Adam tells us he’s Jewish and in interviews has said it. I don’t really hear the Jewish community saying that Adam is not Jewish enough. He has admitted he is not a practicing Jew but the Jewish community still accepts him as Jewish. I am a person who is gay. I don’t like Barbara Streisand or Judy Garland, I am not big on Show tunes, I wear sweats and Jeans most of the time, I am not really into designer anything. (Just good well made reasonably priced clothes) I love women, and yes have (in my younger years) had cardinal knowledge of a few. But I am still GAY. The only thing that make me gay in my opinion, Is not what I wear, not what I like, not how I act, not who I kiss and not even who I have slept with, it is because my love object is of the same sex. I will and can only fall in love with a person who is of the same sex. My soul mate if you will. That is the only thing that truly defines me as gay. All the other stuff is just variations of persons sexuality and likes and dislikes. Adam is coming out with a very mature and a very real definition of Adam the person. IMHO

  72. The love and acceptance of our favorite idol are unconditional, I know. But what is loveable about any of what Adam just said?

    I guess you have to love him to understand *shrugs*

  73. If the girl Adam engaged in oral sex with has been bragging to her friends, she might want to stop, lol. Hopefully she has…cleaned up her act. I flove him.

  74. Such a great interview. His honesty and open-mindedness is just so appealing to me. I love the music, and I love the person—that doesn’t always happen, but it is especially nice when it does.

  75. Sydia
    11/16/2009 at 4:19 pm
    The love and acceptance of our favorite idol are unconditional, I know. But what is loveable about any of what Adam just said?

    Did you read the full article, Sydia, or only the parts that MJ called out above? Not sure why he has to be loveable, though. Can’t he just be honest?

  76. The love and acceptance of our favorite idol are unconditional, I know. But what is loveable about any of what Adam just said?

    Oh gosh, where to begin. His honesty for one, answering the questions he was asked in a personal, thoughtful manner. These are questions, he is answering and he doesn’t back down or give the politically correct answer. Love his thoughts about himself, like not being boxed in. And, not defining anyone by their sexuality. So many things I love about this interview. Really looking forward to Part Two.

  77. I have to react to what people have said about his on the headlines thread:

    And for the sake of the argument- what if it was bullshit- the stuff about him being curious about women? Who the F cares???? Honestly- I don’t get that approach at all- he’s allowed to be a tease if he wants, if it works, if it’s sexy- he’s not denying his gayness here… jeez- the whole “community” needs to relax…

    And it’s also quite possible, as a few before me mentioned, that he has become curious, after recent experiences.
    Hell, I’m pretty hetero as far as I know- but if 10,000 women a night were lusting after me, and I would get hte proposals I’m sure he’s getting, damned if I wouldn’t get just a little curious…

    But, again, even if not- why do people care so much about whether he’s being a 100% honest with us… seriously, he doesn’t owe us anything except to perform as amazingly as he does.
    Everything else is just bonus entertainment.

  78. Just love this interview! He shows so much bravery by being willing to live in a middle space with his masculine side and feminine side while understanding that his homosexuality is threatening to some people and his unwillingness to inhabit solely a masculine or feminine persona is threatening to the gay community. No wonder he inspires such passionate feelings in so many people!

    FWIW, when I read the comment about his youthful sexual liaison with a girl I literally burst into laughter. I started crying I was laughing so hard.

    Adam is like this wonderful friend you adore who keeps you in stitches because he can’t help but say exactly what’s on his mind. He’s so sincere about his experiences and thoughts.

  79. The love and acceptance of our favorite idol are unconditional, I know. But what is loveable about any of what Adam just said?

    what is unloveable about what Adam said? I don’t see how he could have answered those questions any better.

  80. We just got along with each other. He just wants everybody to like him, and he wants to like everybody. It’s very simple, what his needs are. And I have very similar needs.

    This is so sweet that I can ´t take it. Adam, we like you!!!!! We love your voice, your music and how you are.

    During the tour I started to like Michael through his tweets, he seemed innocent and lacking love. He is the only idol I follow – apart from Adam, of course.

  81. Honest…about oral sex? Who cares! He is showing his crude and vulgar side. Sorry…just an opinnnnnnion.

  82. If the girl Adam engaged in oral sex with has been bragging to her friends, she might want to stop, lol. Hopefully she has’ ¦cleaned up her act. I flove him.

    I never thought of that – yeah or hope she never reads OUT or blogs for the next couple of days.

  83. Honest’ ¦about oral sex? Who cares! He is showing his crude and vulgar side. Sorry’ ¦just an opinnnnnnion.

    That’s just one part of the interview, but if that’s what people choose to focus on then so be it.

  84. Sydia, he answered a direct question about it. If he had said, “I’d prefer not to answer” people would be saying he’s not being honest. I’ll take the honest approach anyday.
    Also, it’s excatly the kind of interview I would expect from Out magazine. The interviewer did an incredible job.

  85. Adam is so dead on. Kris never seemed religious to me and i had to read interviews to realise he was a christain. and i always felt danny was too religious. all his songs included pointing to the sky etc. and of course his sermon on tour. and u can see that MIchael just wants to be liked , that’s why he is so emo, he does have a good heart.

    the interview was obviously b/4 he broke up with drake. good thing he did not go on abt his relationship cos it wld have been awkward to read now. it’s the way i feel when celebrities gush abt their relationship one day and the next they are broken up like juilanne hough and karina in DWTS.

    i believe Adam 100% and i don’t think he is trying to keep his female fans. not after all the boob grabbing and signing reports from the tour. he is curious simple . and he will not rule it out period.

    he said the same thing in the rolling stones and got the same response from some people and i think if he was lying or even cared about people’s reactions, he wld have answered the question in a different way with less details . just hope the next girl is clean down there hehe.

  86. That was a great interview. All the questions were answered so thoughtfully and honestly. He a very mature and introspectful individual. All too human and self aware.

    It felt like just listening in on a conversation and getting to know someone. I liked him before and there is nothing in this article to make me like him less.

    He is still learning about himself and growing and maturing. It should not be a surprise that as he meets and get to know more people outside the club scene that his view would shift or change. That’s called being open-minded. This was debated ad nauseum one weekend here at Mjs. It works both ways. He teaches and removes preconceptions just by being himself. The other idosls teach him things and removes pre-conceptions that Adam may have had.

    It’s a beautiful thing.

  87. He is all about the music I see. I can’t believe he would do this kind of an interview. How can anyone take him seriously? Now, FYE makes alot more sense.

  88. Honest’ ¦about oral sex? Who cares! He is showing his crude and vulagar side. Sorry’ ¦just an opinnnnnnion.

    Ohh! this is the only part of the article you read ;-) Who cares? Hmmmm

  89. Honest’ ¦about oral sex? Who cares! He is showing his crude and vulgar side. Sorry’ ¦just an opinnnnnnion.

    Adam gave an opinion about oral sex because he was asked about it. Funny you seem to care alot.

  90. AllenTX
    11/16/2009 at 4:31 pm
    LOL, people need to get laid more often.

    Amen to that!

    And now I will have to wonder… would Adam have come out differently if that certain experience was cleaner??????
    If so- Girl!!! You just ruined it for all of us!!!!!!
    Ha ha
    I AM kidding, you know…:-)

  91. i can’t read it . too much cursing.
    can’t imaging any women reading it either.

  92. And thinking about it, and how Gawker was saying that because Adam didn’t have a great experience with oral sex with a female, I mean who has a great sexual experience their first time anyway? Doesn’t mean you totally rule out anything to do with it every again.

    As for what is loveable about Adam in this interview. Well I don’t happen to love this interview, but then I don’t know that I love interviews. I love music, interviews can be interesting, but love the whole interviews? Typically not print ones. I tend to enjoy the ones I can see more because then I can see the person’s expressions and their interactions with the interviewer. I can enjoy people’s answers to things, however.

    Therefore I agree with and enjoy Adam’s answer about sexuality and how it doesn’t define you. And yes, that there is an attitude within parts of the gay community that want one to JUST act a certain way. Again the AfterElton articles about “Butch It Up,” and their recent response to the Newsweek article (all of which reference Adam), to me really get into this struggle within the gay community. So I enjoy Adam talking about this, I think the subject needs to get talked about more.

    While Adam can get TMI, should he have not answered quite so thoroughly about the oral sex question? arguably not and that was, well TMI, but it was follow-up to his previous answers and he was being honest about it and providing more context for his answers and his position about sexuality being more fluid. Which again, I agree with and enjoy opening up that discussion about this. Not just on the straight side, which I’ve seen a fair amount of, but the gay side as well. And that’s as it should be, because if things truly are more fluid, than it goes on both sides. And not just sexuality, but gender identification and what that is, and what it isn’t.

    So yes, I think that it’s interesting that Adam tries to be upfront as possible and tries to answer questions as honestly as possible, and that sometimes those answers aren’t going to be what people like.

    Also I found interesting and perhaps “loveable,” were his comments about Michael and Danny. He was very open about them and saying some nice things about them and why he felt that way and trying to bring up the ideas of openness between people. Again, I find this a very good topic, which is that some people like Michael just might not have been exposed to gay people, so they feared them, but that with exposure they see there is nothing to be afraid of, and that all people just want acceptance. That Michael’s desire to just be loved and accepted was a simple one, and one he himself shared.

    And with Danny that they could have discussions about religion and god, not with the idea of changing each other’s minds, but of learning about each other. I think that’s a good point, and potentially “loveable.”

    I don’t love everything Adam says, actually. And will disagree with it when I don’t, and even while I admire his honesty, sometimes I think he CAN go too far with it. Like his brain wasn’t quite connected to his mouth there. But I don’t expect perfection from people.

  93. Did you read the full article, Sydia, or only the parts that MJ called out above? Not sure why he has to be lovable, though. Can’t he just be honest?

    I think him being refreshing honest is what makes him so lovable. His honesty about Danny Michael and Kris could have come off as patronizing and phony but he honestly gave his impression of each and it was nice to read that he genuinely liked them and they all got along. I also liked that he admitted to his own small mindedness when it came to Kris….

  94. “clean-gate”

    this really made me laugh, long and loud …

    I’m sure that David Letterman did a thing that touched on this a few years ago … a loud, old lady character comes to mind … and that was random/funny/gross as well.

    Not to mention the fact that this raises a valuable, important social issue … for both genders

    Adam seems to have a good sense of bodily hygiene

  95. He is all about the music I see. I can’t believe he would do this kind of an interview. How can anyone take him seriously? Now, FYE makes a lot more sense.

    Yeah, because generally pop music is not about sex, lol.

  96. Yeah, because generally pop music is not about sex, lol.

    Oh no never.

  97. He is all about the music

    Yes … and the hygiene too …

    OK. Yes. I’ll change the subject now … but I wish I could remember the name of that Letterman character … anybody?

  98. Sydia
    11/16/2009 at 4:37 pm
    The oral sex part’ ¦yes the only part I remember. I will admit it.

    Seriously, Sydia- assuming we’re all adults (if you’re a kid then nevermind- maybe this won’t aply- or maybe it will- I dunno- since you;re already here):
    Sex is a part of life.
    Yes, even oral sex.
    I, for one, even think it’s an important and even serious part of life.
    Therefore, when someone answers a question about it- especially since people are hungry with curiosity to know what experience this oh so attractive gay guy has with women- it’s perfectly ok, and even insightful.
    JMHO

  99. Sydia
    11/16/2009 at 4:37 pm
    The oral sex part’ ¦yes the only part I remember. I will admit it.

    So you didn’t read any of the questions and discussion leading up to it and the context about why the question was even asked?

  100. rockvixen
    11/16/2009 at 4:01 pm
    Is there any way I could possibly love Adam more?

    ITA with you. I love him more with each interview. He is articulate and brave and sailing in unchartered waters. I hope he is judged on the quality of his amazing talent and that eventually “being gay” will be a non-issue. I so detest labels!

  101. There are places for all kinds of interviews. This is a major GLT magazine and they will conduct interviews that include intelligent ones regarding sexuality as he is breaking new ground by being one of the first fully ‘out’ entertainers to begin their career, AND many people are very curious as to why an openly gay man appeals to women in such a profound way.

    I found the interview to be wonderful-insightful questions, well thought out and articulated answers.

    Range of sexuality is something that is much more common than people think and it can be fluid dependent on life experiences at any moment in time, and I can personally attest to that.

    I respect his honesty. If one is uncomfortable speaking about sexuality, then OUT magazine top 100 may not be the magazine to read, as that is going to be a covered topic throughout that magazine.

  102. This is such an interesting interview. I think he is very brave to have these kinds of interviews, BECAUSE fans WILL go, Ewww, that’s gross, why does he have to go there? Well, he does, b/c being gay in society is just not acceptable (Prop 8, for example, denial of same sex marriage in Maine for another). I am so glad I got to read this in context, b/c it makes so much more sense now. He isn’t a gay rights leader, but he isn’t afraid to be who he is, which, again, is not acceptable to most of America. It was terrific to read about his time with Danny and Michael, particularly the latter. b/c people have made fun of him since day one, but I have felt that is he a genuinely good guy who wants to connect with fans (hence his, hello, twitter world! tweets). I knew that Kris came from a fundamentalist church, moreso than Danny’s, and yet it never came up. I love that he and Adam were roommates and became such good friends.

    I am not such a fan of OTT Adam (I mean, the image, I guess), but it doesn’t make me less a fan of him. And I’m sorry if the gay community doesn’t support him, b/c God knows a helluva straight people don’t. And it would be nice to think that the population at large doesn’t give a damn about his gender preference, but that’s bullshit. I guess it’s odd to me, b/c I live in Boston and have had gay friends (I went to an all-women’s school, where experimentation was the norm) and straight friends, and I could give a damn. And it’s sad that gay men and women are not supposed to play straight ones and vice versa, but the entertainment industry is still like this.

    I just want to hear Adam sing. That is all.

  103. The oral sex part’ ¦yes the only part I remember. I will admit it.

    That is too funny. It seems to have made quite an impression on you.
    This must be the quote of the day.

  104. Yes I read everything else. Maybe, I’m clueless here. Is this suppossed to be a smut tell all kinda magazine? Cuz’, if so then I am way out of line. He still becomes an idiot opportunitst in my eyes.

  105. He is all about the music I see. I can’t believe he would do this kind of an interview. How can anyone take him seriously? Now, FYE makes a lot more sense.

    Well this is part one, and this it OUT magazine, so they are going to discuss his sexuality in OUT magazine. It’s kind of expected that they would.

  106. mr
    11/16/2009 at 4:34 pm
    And now I will have to wonder’ ¦ would Adam have come out differently if that certain experience was cleaner??????
    If so- Girl!!! You just ruined it for all of us!!!!!!
    Ha ha
    I AM kidding, you know’ ¦:-)

    LOL, mr!! Seriously though…if he and his parents knew of his orientation since he was 13 (or younger), the female experience just sealed the deal. An experiment to gain acceptance, I’m sure, and thanks in part to liquid courage. At least it solidified in his mind what he really wanted! “OK, yeah. Well uh,,, this was fun. Call you? Mmm. Sure. Now where’s that boy I was talking to yesterday in acting class?”

  107. Gotta chime in again, I love that part about Michael Sarver. I was rereading it just now, and thinking about the last concert and how Michael picked up the orange boa and wrapped it around Adam’s shoulders and neck. There was such a look of affection in his eyes towards Adam at that point. Reading Adam’s feelings towards him and towards their commonalities of just wanting to be liked and accepted, uh,,,ngl, I got a few tears in my eyes. It’s prolly dust though..move along, nothing to see here..lol.

  108. This is one of the better interviews I have read, really insightful. He said a lot about AI that I have been thinking, and about entering the music business and being shuffled around like a puppet because you don’t know anything and don’t take control. I think he really hit the nail on that one.

    And the last questions about sex with a girl? Yeah, a but TMI, didn’t really want to know that. But I guess I have to take the good with the bad. :grin:

  109. All I can say is that Adam is such an amazing interviewee. He has so much to say. Love this guy.

  110. To have someone who is very religious and who feels like that —
    That’s the funny thing, is that he’s not very religious, I don’t know where he got that label. Danny [Gokey] is very religious.

    I am a bit bothered by the fact that to some people religious people can’t be accepting of GLBT people. I go to a church that is “Open and Affirming” as the UCC church likes to call it. The UCC is one of the oldest churches in this country stemming from The Congregational Church, which was the first church in this country to make a stand against slavery, the first church in this country to ordain an African American, the first church to ordain an openly gay minister, and the first church in this country to ordain a woman. I don’t know if it’s the first, but it’s also had advertisements banned from network television as being controversial such as this one http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nXCzzNoMeNs&feature=related .

    Sure, we’re in the minority, but I honestly couldn’t attend a church that didn’t welcome all people on their own terms. Not all churches in our denomination are ONA (Open and Affirming), and especially when it comes to small towns particularly in the South, but there are enough that it’s hopefully making a difference. In every medium to large city, and I’ve studied this in my considering moving somewhere other than here, there is at least two LGBT welcoming churches. Some other denominations, particularly Presbyterian and ELCA (Evangelical Lutheran Church in America) have many congregations that are welcoming of the LGBT community. I hope more and more realize that Jesus turned nobody away, and it’s horrendous for us to do so in his name. I’d rather change denomination than attend a church that doesn’t understand that God made these people just the way they are. I’d actually rather attend a Unitarian Universalist church (which technically isn’t Christian but welcomes all people of spirituality) than attend a church that doesn’t welcome all people.

    Yes, some fundamental Christians are very outspoken about homosexuality, but they aren’t the only Christians, and to be a Christian doesn’t automatically make you homophobic. Anyhow, I don’t know how “religious” Kris is as I don’t know the meaning of the word that Adam was getting at. I do think because Kris hasn’t been afraid to mention it, that he’s very Christian and that God means a bunch to him.

  111. Oh, BTW, I am not a fan of GaGa b/c she is to *me* all image, little substance. I don’t feel as if she is opening up, she is, I feel, hiding behind a persona. JMHO, and I do not feel this is the case with Adam, b/c we get to see all sides of his personality (and obviously parts he doesn’t have to share). I think it’s sad that at his age he has only been in love with two people, but since I am unmarried I have no idea if this is the norm. It would be nice to think that he could just be happy, no?

  112. Thanks, MJ for posting those excerpts. Just shows, once again, how great an interviewee Adam is.

    That being said, I probably won’t read the entire article because even though I adore Adam (and I really do), I have read enough about him.

    I am just waiting *patiently* for the CD to drop and then I will be happy !!

  113. ‘clean-gate’ 

    this really made me laugh, long and loud ‘ ¦

    I’m sure that David Letterman did a thing that touched on this a few years ago ‘ ¦ a loud, old lady character comes to mind ‘ ¦ and that was random/funny/gross as well.

    Not to mention the fact that this raises a valuable, important social issue ‘ ¦ for both genders

    Adam seems to have a good sense of bodily hygiene

    ……………..

    Adam’s complete openess, has me in stitches. I wasn’t ready for that one.
    Now I have envisioned him, in a huge bubble bath, with a very lucky girl. Getting clean, and fresh, and maybe champagne. Foreplay is just an after thought!

  114. The love and acceptance of our favorite idol are unconditional, I know. But what is loveable about any of what Adam just said?

    My question: what isn’t?

    Candor, honesty, thoughtfulness, articulate, shrewd observations of complex social dynamics, speaking up for people whose opinions differ from your own to the point of defending, spot-on analysis of the extremely difficult personal and professional minefield he is negotiating, naked vulnerability … Or we remember two-line discussion of awkward teenage sexual encounter?

    Adam does not shirk or shrink away from the question. No coward is he. You ask the question, you can be fairly certain you’ll get an honest answer.

  115. Maybe, I’m clueless here. Is this suppossed to be a smut tell all kinda magazine?

    I didn’t read anything that was even remotely smutty in the article. The questions were good. The answers were good. The reporting appears to be good. It’s all very clean and above board … in my eyes.

  116. Well now we see how that “I can sing my face off” quote, which caused a bit of hand-wringing around here, was taken WAY out of context in the magazine. This is how it appears in the print edition:

    Lambert, 27, was a rare catch for Idol: a professional performer. “I’ve lived in L.A. for eight years,” he says. “It’s about making a good TV show. I just wanted to be really careful that it didn’t turn into a fucking pageant. I can sing my face off. All this other stuff is part of a personality, a persona.”

    That paragraph looks like they took three or four quotes from different parts of the interview and strung them together. (The “fucking pageant” line isn’t even in Part One of the interview, it must be coming up in Part Two.) In the full interview transcript, after a LONG series of questions about his sexuality, the interviewer asks:

    If you were going to pick one thing to be remembered for, so far, what would it be?

    That I can sing my face off. I mean, that’s what I do. All this other stuff is part of a personality, persona thing surrounding that. I hope that people are like, ‘Oh, I like his voice. I like his music.’ 

    Previously it seemed like something of a non-sequitor, possibly a bit arrogant. Now it seems perfectly reasonable when read in context.

  117. *sigh* Let’s see if I have it right.

    Gay is bad…
    Cursing is bad…
    Oral sex is bad…
    Bondage is bad…

    LOL, people need to get laid more often

    I couldn’t agree more.

  118. This interview is awesome. Excellent questions, excellent answers. I also laughed at his TMI answer to the het sex question.
    One doesn’t have to be an uber-fan to love everything about this guy. This man makes me love him more every day just by being himself.

    I’m not a fan of Kris’ music, but he is also very endearing in his interviews – which is why I’ll watch the interviews but don’t listen to his music.

    I don’t think being a fan of someone means you blindly love everything about them. In Adam’s case, he just has everything going on in him that I adore in people. Oh yeah, and THAT VOICE!

  119. Is this suppossed to be a smut tell all kinda magazine? Cuz’, if so then I am way out of line. He still becomes an idiot opportunitst in my eyes.

    It’s a magazine called OUT about being OUT and what GLBT feel. So part of the experience for gay people is talking about what it’s like to be gay, and yes for most of them, when they knew they were gay. Talking about the sex they had with the opposite gender. And because Adam was talking about how he thinks people don’t have to fit into boxes in the straight OR the gay community, that it’s okay to kiss the opposite gender. It’s okay maybe even to be curious about what it would be like. So OUT magazine follow-up with a question, because he had previously said he had oral sex with a woman (in RS) if he had had that, he said he had, OUT magazine decided to follow-up with a question, that Adam decided to answer.

    Now should Adam have gotten as TMI as to say, ‘well it wasn’t great,’ and then following up on why? maybe. But it was OUT magazine’s decision to ask the question about oral sex and follow-up about that.

    And why the did isn’t because of “smut,” but because it’s a sexual act and they are a magazine that talks about GLBT people and the reporter and Adam were discussing the fluidity of sex and gender and why Adam didn’t feel that was bad. Which isn’t ‘smutty,’ it’s a discussion among adults about acts that most adults engage in.

  120. “He still becomes an idiot opportunitst in my eyes.”

    Sydia, I am just really curious about what that mean. I honestly don’t know. And once again, Adam picks and chooses what he says and how he says them. He wouldn’t have this kind of conversation in other publications. Out is about being gay, isn’t it?

    I have to be perfectly honest, tho. I asked if B&N had Out Magazine. The bookseller showed me where it was. The new issue hadn’t come out yet, and I said, Okay, I’ll come back for it. And I felt weird asking for it, like, Oh, I could be gay, don’t look at me. And that makes me think I really have a long way to go in acceptance, and that just made me sad about myself, b/c it was an actual feeling I had, and I admit it and don’t like that I had it at all. But I did, and it’s something I need to think about. Also, I am not married and have not been in a serious relationship, and people used to ask if I was gay and don’t anymore, but I know they think I am “in the closet” and I am not, but so what if I was?

    This article gives me a lot to think about.

  121. The interview is actually really decent, I recommend any AI fan to read it because he says a lot about AI. The only possibly TMI statement is really the one MJ has already posted.

  122. And I felt weird asking for it, like, Oh, I could be gay, don’t look at me. And that makes me think I really have a long way to go in acceptance, and that just made me sad about myself, b/c it was an actual feeling I had, and I admit it and don’t like that I had it at all. But I did, and it’s something I need to think about.

    I applaud you Sue. It takes guts to own that.

    AFWIW, whether you’re gay or not, there’s no judgment. It just doesn’t matter. Not from me, at least.

  123. BECAUSE fans WILL go, Ewww, that’s gross,

    Sex between two consulting “adults” is never “gross”. I hate that word when talking about sex more than any other. Gross is throwing up on your dinner plate and then eating it up in front of others….sorry to be so graphic! I know everyone has very different “takes” on what is acceptable sexual behavior….but, for me, sex is a beautiful and wondrous thing. Humankind is pretty much the only species where sex is about recreation and not just procreation…so if the great guide in the sky gave us this wonderful gift it always seems strange to me that (a collective) we chooses to diminish it by holding it up to ridicule.

    I’ll stop now…my 2 cents is totally used up.

  124. Really don’t see what any fuss is about this article. Is pretty much what I would expect from OUT magazine. Sex (and drugs) and rock and roll have been befellows for eons.

    What is interesting to me is that Adam seems very self aware about the very thing that comes across so strongly – that he is a gay MAN – aka has a strong masculine side, who also embraces his feminine, but is not led around by it… at the end of the day who you are influences what you do and how you do it, so hell yeah all the outlier stuff is relevant to his music. How could it not be.

  125. Gay is bad’ ¦
    Cursing is bad’ ¦
    Oral sex is bad’ ¦
    Bondage is bad’ ¦

    None of these things are bad in the proper place at the proper time between consenting adults. I am just sick of the in your face attitudes of some people in the public eye. If we don’t all agree with their right to swear and simulate (or more) sex in front of us day after day, we are prudes, intolerant, homophobic, etc. Enough is enough.

  126. will
    11/16/2009 at 4:49 pm
    Well now we see how that ‘I can sing my face off’  quote, which caused a bit of hand-wringing around here, was taken WAY out of context in the magazine. This is how it appears in the print edition:

    If you were going to pick one thing to be remembered for, so far, what would it be?

    “That I can sing my face off. I mean, that’s what I do. All this other stuff is part of a personality, persona thing surrounding that. I hope that people are like, ‘Oh, I like his voice. I like his music.’ ……..

    Previously it seemed like something of a non-sequitor, possibly a bit arrogant. Now it seems perfectly reasonable when read in context.

    THIS ^ ^ ^

    Thanks for finding this and posting it. In context the “singing my face off” comment makes much more sense.

  127. He is all about the music I see. I can’t believe he would do this kind of an interview.

    Oh and also about this, when asked, admist all the sexuality questions by OUT, what he would like to be remembered for, Adam said for his music. That hopefully his sexuality or anything about him personally, wouldn’t and should matter if people liked what he sung. So yeah, it really IS all about the music for Adam. In that, that is what is about, what he’s spent most of his life trying to be good at, and that he hopes people will like and remember him for.

    In fact he’s asking you to ignore all the rest of the crap in this article, and just asks you to listen to him. I mean if you don’t like the article or him? Cool, but then that’s not what he’s asking you to care about. Don’t like him personally or his sexuality or whatver, but don’t judge his music by that. Because his music is what he wants people to remember him by/care about.

  128. The thought that just popped up in my brain that made me chuckle… we get ‘growing up’ stories from both Kris and Adam today… Kris talks about his Christmas pj’s and board games, Adam talks about oral sex with a girl.

    Just sort of reinforces the generalizations about the Kris vs. Adam stuff, doesn’t it? That said, I found the interviews with both guys to be entertaining.

  129. “”None of these things are bad in the proper place at the proper time between consenting adults. I am just sick of the in your face attitudes of some people in the public eye””

    It is only in your face if you go looking for it on TV or reading about it online or anywhere else. If I see something I dont like, change the channel or go to another link, simple – then something I am not comfortable with is not in my face, I hold that power over myself no one else – dont like it, dont look. I respect Adams honesty and Tess – as usual – I love what you have to say

  130. suebrody
    11/16/2009 at 4:54 pm
    And I felt weird asking for it, like, Oh, I could be gay, don’t look at me. And that makes me think I really have a long way to go in acceptance, and that just made me sad about myself, b/c it was an actual feeling I had, and I admit it and don’t like that I had it at all. But I did, and it’s something I need to think about. Also, I am not married and have not been in a serious relationship, and people used to ask if I was gay and don’t anymore, but I know they think I am ‘in the closet’  and I am not, but so what if I was?

    This article gives me a lot to think about.

    I’ll be honest, suebrody, I will likely feel a little weird about buying Out magazine myself. Which bothers me. Because I am a huge advocate for LGBT rights and have gay friends. Why would buying a gay magazine make me feel weird? Because, like you, I will wonder (briefly) whether the clerk that rings me up thinks I’m gay. And you’re right – that says we have a ways to go in our own acceptance.

    Can I give you a virtual hug? I have friends who are not married and have been thought to be gay…but are not. And they may have been hurt at one time to think people thought they were in the closet. What if they/you were, indeed? The day it doesn’t matter to any of us is a day we should hope for. I don’t think it will be in my lifetime, and I’m only 44. But I’m hopeful.

    *Adam* gives us a lot to think about, doesn’t he?

  131. dhunken: I will and can only fall in love with a person who is of the same sex. My soul mate if you will. That is the only thing that truly defines me as gay. All the other stuff is just variations of persons sexuality and likes and dislikes. Adam is coming out with a very mature and a very real definition of Adam the person. IMHO

    Like Rowenaaine, I’ll also thank you for your post. That was a beautiful statement.

    ETA: Do click on her name if you have the chance. It would be *so* lovely to see you! :-)

  132. If we don’t all agree with their right to swear and simulate (or more) sex in front of us day after day, we are prudes, intolerant, homophobic, etc.

    I hear you. And I don’t want to attack you, so let’s talk about me.

    If I don’t like swearing, I know better than to read an AL interview.
    If I don’t like suggestive dancing, I know better than to go to an AL concert.
    If homosexuality offends me, I know better than to follow AL’s every move.

    For those people who are not offended by any of the above, Adam Lambert is a riot.

  133. I think what happens is that a lot of people that they get are from a small town in the Midwest, or they were a student and now they just kind of sing on the side. The whole amateur aspect of the show is really interesting, because it creates accessible personalities for the audience to attach themselves to. That’s why it looks like a machine. Because the machine has to lead them around, these amateurs that don’t know what else to do. And I think that there are some people that come onto the show that are savvy, and they get how to play the show. And I guess that was me.

    Really?

    Cause I’m thinking small town Kelly Clarkson and small town Carrie Underwood and small town Chris Daughtry and small town David Cook might have a thing or two worked out in the actual musical biz.

    :-)

    Just saying.

    Of course there are other Idol platinum sellers with the necessary savvy gained from the trenches of musical theater, like . . . no . . . or?

    Huh.

    Well, more power to him if he forges a new path to success. But it’s funny where niavite can lurk. I think a lot of kids are shocked at their college, or on the job, or in their competitive sport, when some kid from nowhere in the Midwest beats them out

  134. I wonder whether Danny and Michael will be buying Out magazine to see themselves in print.

    Somehow the thought of that makes me want to laugh!!

    That being said, I thought Adam’s comments about the two of them were both respectful and insightful. Gives me warm fuzzies all around.

  135. If we don’t all agree with their right to swear and simulate (or more) sex in front of us day after day, we are prudes, intolerant, homophobic, etc. Enough is enough.

    sanduskyday- do you not have the choice to not look, read, and listen to what you don’t want to? You have the power to avoid all of this, nothing is being forced upon you and you are not even being asked to agree. Usually one click will do it.

  136. So someone said that he talked about his oral sex experience so he can’t be taken seriously as a singer? LMAO. Some of the comments are simply stupid and don’t make any sense. Oh well, I love this particular interview, like A LOT. Love him for knowing what he wants in life and be comfortable with it. Gosh, he is wise and lovable. Adam, you are the man!!!!!!

  137. The segregation [from straight people] that exists in the gay community is outdated. At a time, it was necessary because we weren’t accepted. And now that acceptance is moving way forward, over the past 10 years. I think that we need to move forward too, and I think we need to kind of like, stop being so segregated and just be.

    “We don’t define what makes us right or wrong..”

    The interview shows clearly that Adam is always open, always questioning and always evolving.

    Adam really is the face of a new generation.

  138. MJ Part 2 of the OUT Interview transcript will be out on Tuesday, not next Monday. From the end of the article “Come back Tuesday for the second half of our extended interview transcript.”

    This is a great interview — great questions for a change! Some of the most interesting parts of the first part of this interview are what Adam says about Idol and his ablum. Here is a small section from page 2:

    Don’t you want to open people’s minds with your art? You’ve struck me as being an artist who has a point of view.
    I do have a point of view. I may have something to say now and again. I just want people to enjoy the song and have a good time. That’s what music is about for me. It’s not so political for me. I may be the subject of something that’s so political, being that we’re in a weird time right now. And if I can indirectly open people’s minds up and get them to kind of change their views a little bit, then I’m really thrilled with that. But that’s not my mission. That’s not why I’m doing this.

    You’ve talked about Idol as less of a competition and more of a platform. I’ve always seen Idol as a machine, like a political machine that can make or break —
    It is!

    Watching you was exciting because it felt like you were beating them at their own game.
    We were all on the same page. I could feel early on that they were all on my side. They weren’t against me. They never said, ‘Tone it down.’  They knew it was good for ratings, they knew people were into it. They encouraged it. I was like, ‘This is great! This could not have gone better.’  They were totally supportive of what I wanted to do. They didn’t ask questions. They were like, ‘What are you singing? Is it well known? Are people gonna like it? Well, cool! Then go for it, man! You’re wearing what? All right!’  They didn’t care.

    It’s about money at the end of the day, right?
    It’s about making a good TV show.

    Could expectations for your album be any bigger?
    I know. It’s a lot of pressure right now, and it’s gotten to me a couple times. But, I think that what you were saying — about the show being a platform and being a machine and all that — I think what happens is, I’m one of the lucky people that have been in the industry a little bit. I haven’t necessarily been in the recording industry. Over the past couple of years I started working on some demos and things like that and wanting to get into it. But I’ve been in the theater industry for a long time. And I’ve lived in L.A. for eight years. And when you’re in the city of entertainment, and you open your eyes and you meet people and you hear stories and you have friends that have been through this and that, going onto a show like Idol, you get it, going into it. I think what happens is that a lot of people that they get are from a small town in the Midwest, or they were a student and now they just kind of sing on the side. The whole amateur aspect of the show is really interesting, because it creates accessible personalities for the audience to attach themselves to. That’s why it looks like a machine. Because the machine has to lead them around, these amateurs that don’t know what else to do. And I think that there are some people that come onto the show that are savvy, and they get how to play the show. And I guess that was me.

    Have you gotten any really good pieces of savvy business advice?
    Well, I’ve been told by a handful of the producers to just be true to yourself. Just make sure that you feel like you’re at the center of this, artistically. That’s what I’m trying to do. And it’s being facilitated really elegantly. It’s a weird misconception with the show, that it’s a machine and they puppet people around. I think some people kind of end up getting puppeted because they don’t really know how to drive.

    I meant more like, they get to test you and see if you can rise to the occasion. As opposed to how you came in and were like, ‘This is what we’re going to do. Work around me.’ 
    Yeah, they love that, though. It’s less work for them. I think they get excited when they see someone with drive and ideas and confidence. They love that. That’s the thing about the show that people don’t get. They’re not threatened by that. That’s what they would love. They would love to get as many people like that on the show as possible. It would make for a good show.

    And also the long portion of this interview about being gay:

    It’s very narrow.
    The segregation [from straight people] that exists in the gay community is outdated. At a time, it was necessary because we weren’t accepted. And now that acceptance is moving way forward, over the past 10 years. I think that we need to move forward too, and I think we need to kind of like, stop being so segregated and just be.

    How do you describe your sexuality?
    I think one of the things about the gay community that’s really interesting is that while people own their homosexuality, there is a strange aversion to letting the masculine and the feminine exist within you in a balanced way. And for me, personally, I feel I have a very strong masculine side, and I also have a very strong feminine side. And a lot of people are scared to live in that gray area. There’s boys out in Boystown that are either really fem or really butch. It’s at the extremes. I love when I meet people that are just kind of comfortable being both. And they don’t have to identify being really butch or really fem. Why? Why would you have to?

  139. I have an Uncle that was born in the 1920’s. He was gay but he was never out to the family until after his death. He lived with our family off and on and he was a wonderful, wonderful person. I think it is so very sad that he never able to share that part of his life with the family that he loved. If he were living today I would think that he would be like Adam and that the one thing that was so much a part of him would not have been kept in a “secret” other life but rather shared with his family.

  140. Are you toying with perception when you talk about how you could be bi-curious? Or are you generally attracted to women?
    I will make out with a girl at a bar. I mean, after a couple of drinks.

    [Laughing] That doesn’t make you any less gay. Get three mai tais in a gay boy and he’ll make out with a girl. Sex is something different.
    That’s why I say I’m curious. There are gay guys that gag and go ‘eww’  at the thought of having sex with a girl. I’m curious about it, because I’ve never done it.

    Have you ever had any sex with a girl?
    Oral.

    You went down on her?
    Uh-huh.

    Was it gross, or it was just not what you wanted?
    It was a little gross because I don’t think she was as clean as she could’ve been. It wasn’t the act of it that really turned me off. I don’t really remember. I was 18 and I was drunk. Or maybe I was 17… The point of the matter is that I would not rule it out. The idea is intriguing.

    _____________________________________

    There is hope for us women yet!!! – I only hope the one that snags his curiousity is CLEAN!!! What an experience, to have a “not so clean” girl on your first try at it!!!

  141. I’ll be honest, suebrody, I will likely feel a little weird about buying Out magazine myself. Which bothers me

    Me too!! I felt exactly like this when I was looking at Barnes and Noble the other day. In fact, I didn’t even want to ask the clerk where the magazine was because I would have felt embarrassed. Then I felt bad about the fact I would have felt embarrassed. What is wrong with me. Despite these feelings, once I track the magazine down, I WILL BUY it!!! Not sure if I will be able to ask the clerk where it is though.

    Oh well . . . I’m trying! Glad Adam can be so gracious to all of us who have so many contradictory feelings but still love him.

  142. Adam, you sure give good interview.

    Indeed he does, certainly keeps me coming back for repeat engagements. :-)

  143. maturin

    I agree with Adam’s statement (and said it in a different thread). I think he is alluding to the AI myth that you can take someone from nothing, ‘discover’ them and make them a star. I complete believe this to be false. None of the ‘stars’ of AI are amateurs, including Kelly, Kris, Chris or Cook. All of them tried to have a go at the music business.

  144. And I think that there are some people that come onto the show that are savvy, and they get how to play the show.

    That’s also important to note. As far as David Cook, Adam has always praised the way that David navigated American Idol. He has talked about David’s strategy and how he tried to emulate him in that regard. I never thought of Carrie, Kelly or Chris as not being savvy. All three of those people seemed to know exactly who they are musically and never wavered from that on the show, NEVER. He has said the same thing about Kris. He has said that Kris knew who he was and sang what he believed in.

    When I read the rest of that quote, I thought more of Megan, of Lil, of some of the contestants from prior seasons who didn’t really have a lot of experience prior to the show or a strong musical identity before going on the show. Megan has stated how AI pushed her around, how she didn’t get to make choices regarding her songs, her wardrobe etc. Lil, her constant trying to change who she was on the show to please the judges ended up being her downfall. She got so wrapped up in the AI machine, the judges, the criticism that she seemed to lose herself in the process and in turn, lose the audience. There have been a lot of prior contestants who have said the exact same thing regarding the AI machine and feeling like they were swallowed by the machine and spit out without support. That’s what I got from what Adam said.

  145. I think it’s sad that at his age he has only been in love with two people, but since I am unmarried I have no idea if this is the norm. It would be nice to think that he could just be happy, no?

    Once again, hugs to you, suebrody…… ;)

  146. If he ever has sex with a woman (and the press catches wind of it), the headlines will be a riot. It will be a total scandal.

    Adam Lambert has sex with a woman!!! Who would have thought?? OMG!!!

    Such a scandalized response would be a sign of positive change though in a funny way.

  147. KayGee I think there is zero chance… but if you wanta get him drunk.. well ;)

  148. I’ll be honest, suebrody, I will likely feel a little weird about buying Out magazine myself. Which bothers me

    Have to say it wouldn’t bother me at all. But then I spent the better part of my clubbing days hanging around in gay clubs with my future husband and his gay housemate and waking up to an interesting assortment of overnight guests in the kitchen :-)

  149. Well, more power to him if he forges a new path to success. But it’s funny where niavite can lurk. I think a lot of kids are shocked at their college, or on the job, or in their competitive sport, when some kid from nowhere in the Midwest beats them out

    Yeah, Carrie took the reins and went country at least part of her album, but part of it was still pop. And Kelly certainly has talked about how unhappy she has been in her albums, especially the first one. I think it’s been said that Cook had ‘discussions,’ with his lable on what type of music to put out and that I think we all agree compromises were made. But I agree that because all of those people had strong enough personalities, that they were able to get some of what they wanted, but certainly not all. I think we might be able to agree on that.

    But maybe some others that got more screwed with their albums and the sausage factory of 19, could have done better with pushing back with more experience. That might have been a skilled they could have learned. Though some others seem to have that skill just naturally, like Carrie, David, Chris and arguably Kelly. Though again, Kelly seems pretty bitter about most of the music she’s made with her current contract. I think we could agree there there have been some who have worked with 19 who were pushed even more by their label and ultimately, it screwed them over.

    That being said, yeah, that for me was the part of the interview where I thought Adam was mostly wrong than right.

  150. I may feel strange about buying Out magazine, but not because I fear people will think I am gay. I’d feel embarrassed if they think I’m fangirling Adam Lambert.
    I always thought I was too mature and sophisticated for that. Obviously I’m not.

  151. Tess
    11/16/2009 at 4:57 pm

    BECAUSE fans WILL go, Ewww, that’s gross,

    Sex between two consulting ‘adults’  is never ‘gross’ . I hate that word when talking about sex more than any other. Gross is throwing up on your dinner plate and then eating it up in front of others’ ¦.sorry to be so graphic! I know everyone has very different ‘takes’  on what is acceptable sexual behavior’ ¦.but, for me, sex is a beautiful and wondrous thing. Humankind is pretty much the only species where sex is about recreation and not just procreation’ ¦so if the great guide in the sky gave us this wonderful gift it always seems strange to me that (a collective) we chooses to diminish it by holding it up to ridicule.

    I’ll stop now’ ¦my 2 cents is totally used up.

    I think I still have my $.02 and feel that all is fair in love, love’s a crazy game…sorry will sing no more. Anyhow, I don’t want to hear about anybody at all’s sexual escapades. I don’t care what anybody does, with anybody else, or anybody elses for that matter. I just want to be spared the details unless I’m involved. I find nobody who talks about their sex happenings edgy. I just find it rather icky.

    My sister has been an “out” lesbian for 30+ years. The most sexual thing she ever said to me (the first person she told she was gay because she knew I’d not judge, and I didn’t) was that when going for a promotion, she wouldn’t get it because she didn’t have a penis…except for the purple one on the top shelf of the closet. I told her to waive that sucker in front of tptb at her workplace…Ummm, she retired instead. She’s a very happy big sister these days :)

  152. yayyy a cool interview!!
    I’ll read it!!!(much better than reding about Ellis island.ugh)
    couldn’t post too much yesterday cause I was busyyyyyy.read mj’s write up though.sounds f%#king amazing !!!!

    ok,(take a deep breath) time until the best
    album ever:OH MY F$&KING ADAM!!!!!

    6  days, 6  hours, 38  minutes and 28  seconds

    *dies*

    brb reading the thing…

  153. Nobody…well at least not me is saying being gay oral sex, sex, or bondagae is bad. Adam just annoyes me with all his F bombs, and naked chicks deal. It would have been awesome to see this side of him during AI. I also think it would’ve been hotter for him to pose with some hot dudes, instead of some hot women. He is an opportunist for hiding who he really was on AI, and for now teasing his female fans with a maybe? He is so full of it. Stick to what you do best dude. Sing your face off!

  154. None of these things are bad in the proper place at the proper time between consenting adults. I am just sick of the in your face attitudes of some people in the public eye’ ”

    IMHO a billboard is in your face. An article in a magazine is not.

  155. and waking up to an interesting assortment of overnight guests in the kitchen

    Or strewn on the kitchen floor, as per my experience :-)

  156. Q3- I found what he said about Idol one of the most interesting parts too. I can see why AI and RCA are so enthralled with Adam. Not only the immense talent but the fact that they didn’t have to do everything for him. He took the driver’s seat in the process and I can only imagine how exciting that must have been for them.

  157. IMHO a billboard is in your face. An article in a magazine is not.

    Thank you for your feedback. I was speaking of attitudes.

  158. I think it’s sad that at his age he has only been in love with two people, but since I am unmarried I have no idea if this is the norm.

    I don’t know about other people, but I think this is a surprisingly low number. To my great chagrin at times I fall in love quite easily, and I can’t even imagine only having experienced romantic attachment twice by the age of 27. Heck, I probably fell in love at least twice during the fall of my sophomore year in high school!!

    I think that some people just aren’t biologically programmed to fall in love very easily. Adam may be like that. He longs for love, but he doesn’t easily experience the trigger that makes you fall in love.

    My beautiful niece is like that, which I think is why she always hung out with the guys–she never fell for them. And no, she isn’t gay, she ended up falling in love with a very nice man and marrying him in the end, but it sure took a long time.

    It’s all speculation, but I think that Adam does have difficulty falling in love, and I think that he tends to romanticize what it is like. If he’d gone through the emotional roller coaster of falling in love many times, I think he might become a bit more pragmatic by now. He just seems so darn sentimental about falling in love! It’s kind of painful to watch hoping that he can experience it again.

  159. If he ever has sex with a woman (and the press catches wind of it), the headlines will be a riot. It will be a total scandal.

    Adam Lambert has sex with a woman!!! Who would have thought?? OMG!!!

    Such a scandalized response would be a sign of positive change though in a funny way.

    Well for me it would be the same response they got when they said he was gay… uhhuh.. and?

  160. Sydia
    11/16/2009 at 5:22 pm

    He is an opportunist for hiding who he really was on AI, and for now teasing his female fans with a maybe? He is so full of it.

    How would that work, exactly since they were not given press access during Idol? Something like making an announcement on a random Tuesday night before singing?

  161. sorry Sanduskyday….I don’t find that Adam has an in your face attitude. I think that Adam has decided that he is who he is and he really doesn’t care if you or I want to follow him or not. I admire him for that. A lot of people on this site admire Kris for his laid back attitude. That is fine for Kris. I don’t find it interesting. I like someone like Adam who can stand up and tell it the way he sees it. He was asked a bunch of questions and he answered them honestly. Because he is a extrovert and someone who lives life to the fullest, his interviews, videos etc hold so much promise.

  162. Well for me it would be the same response they got when they said he was gay’ ¦ uhhuh.. and?

    Not sure what you are saying here, but to clarify, I’m just trying to say that it would be positive in the sense that the media has actually accepted Adam as a gay man and would be surprised that he would sleep with a woman.

    Anyway, movin’ on . . .

  163. Sydia
    11/16/2009 at 4:19 pm

    The love and acceptance of our favorite idol are unconditional, I know. But what is loveable about any of what Adam just said

    ?

    If you’re not a hetero who gets it or gay, it would be hard and complex to explain the bravery here. Peace.

  164. He could have just said, “I don’t really remember. I was 18 and I was drunk.” He didn’t need the gross part. Just sayin….

  165. Sydia
    11/16/2009 at 5:22 pm

    He is an opportunist for hiding who he really was on AI,

    He never denied the kissing pictures. He said it was a singing contest, not a kissing contest.

    Interesting though, that you choose to say “who he really was” because he didn’t forcefully announce his homosexuality. I guess you are one of those people he’s talking about who believe that he should be defined only by his sexuality. Because on American Idol, I feel I saw a lot of who Adam was, a talented singer, a grateful competitor and a gracious collaborator who never failed to acknowledge his fellow idols, as well as, the AI staff who helped him, someone who appreciated the opportunities granted to him and someone who has a passion for music above all else.

  166. I may feel strange about buying Out magazine, but not because I fear people will think I am gay. I’d feel embarrassed if they think I’m fangirling Adam Lambert.
    I always thought I was too mature and sophisticated for that. Obviously I’m not.

    This is totally how I felt when I bought Details. When I took it up to the register at Barnes and Noble, though, the cashier just looked at the picture and said, “Aaaah, Mr. Lambert.” It was the beginning of a 10-minute conversation about how awesome he was on Idol and how we both wished him the greatest of success. I even made a sort of embarrassed comment to her (I’m 40-something, she was in her mid-twenties) about appearing like a bit of a cougar (particularly at the part when she wondered aloud what he’d been up to, to which I delivered a long dissertation), and she immediately scoffed at that, saying that men have had their fantasies for years and that it’s about time women has some harmless fun. Needless to say, I loved her!

  167. just read again the interview,
    is one of Adam`s best interview, (also LA Times the ultimate interview 1,2,3,4 parts)

  168. Dhunken!

    Adam must be taking notes from your post for his next interview.

    If a man says “I want to marry a man” (and may that be a legal option soon everywhere) the only thing you can know about him from that statement is not to fix him up with your niece. Otherwise, you have no clue who he is. Nor should you.

    And, strangely enough, a person’s sexual orientation may be the least interesting and least important thing about that person.

    Adam is a sexy guy, interested in sexy performances, and a sexy persona, but he wants the freedom to be all that and still have his music be the most interesting and important thing about him.

  169. woaahhhh !!!

    thank god this thread isn’t huge yet!!

    yknow personally I was a little proud of my reaction(ughhh that sounds so stuck up:() To it,I mean like the change.9 month ago or
    whatever,I wouldve been scadalized after the 1st sentence,reading this I didnt bat an eye

    ummm I pretty much agree with evrythibg he said I think.

    I think this was the first really open,honest Adam interview where I wasn’t like idk feeling sad-ish,or offended or insulted.I mean some parts of rs or whatever,a small part o me is like you don’t need to say that.this was the first interview for you for me dawg, where he was perfectly open w/o being offensive.

    GOD ,I F$&KING LOVE THIS GUY!!!!

    brb reading the thread

  170. If you’re not a hetero who gets it or gay, it would be hard and complex to explain the bravery here. Peace.

    Adam is willing to reveal what is fully human in himself for everyone to see. He may be the alpha male, but he also makes himself incredibly vulnerable when he puts himself out there like he does in this interview.

    We all live with contradictions in ourselves that that in essence reflect our humanity, but very few people are wiling to reveal them publicly because of the reaction we think they will provoke in other people. Nobody wants to be criticized; we all want to be loved. The way Adam puts himself out there for public consumption is exceedingly brave.

  171. Does anybody really believe that Adam would consider having sex with a woman? I don’t. I don’t understand why he feels the need to keep the door open on that issue, either. It sounds disingenuous. Just be yourself, Adam.

  172. None of these things are bad in the proper place at the proper time between consenting adults. I am just sick of the in your face attitudes of some people in the public eye. If we don’t all agree with their right to swear and simulate (or more) sex in front of us day after day, we are prudes, intolerant, homophobic, etc. Enough is enough.

    Bottom line: if this bothers you, don’t seek out and read magazine articles from publications that are geared toward adults. If you’ve ever read anything in Rolling Stone, Interview, Premiere, Spin, GQ, Cosmo, Playboy or yes, Out (to name JUST a few), you are going to get interviews that give gritty detail.

    That is their purpose ‘“ to strip away the pretense and attempt to get below the surface.

    Whether it’s the fact that your favorite movie star chain smokes or your favorite singer has had sex once or a certain starlet was abused in her first marriage (or that EVERYONE drops the f-bomb) ‘“ this is the type of information that will be divulged in grown-up interviews.

    If an interview subject cops out and tries to soft-pedal, it’s entirely possible the story would be killed. Tiger Beat has its market. Out is targeted to adults.

  173. mr
    11/16/2009 at 4:34 pm

    AllenTX
    11/16/2009 at 4:31 pm
    LOL, people need to get laid more often.

    Amen to that!

    And now I will have to wonder’ ¦ would Adam have come out differently if that certain experience was cleaner??????
    If so- Girl!!! You just ruined it for all of us!!!!!!
    Ha ha
    I AM kidding, you know’ ¦:-)

    LOL nope, sorry. Not likely. I’ve spent my life in the gay comm in the apparently unique role of little sister to a gay brother (RIP).

    Adam’s experience is quite common especially at 17 or 18 but even at 27. During the 80’s my brother and his friends loved dressing me up in some character like Madonna or whatever, dragging me to the clubs to dance our asses off, then all retire in a big dogpile at 4 am to sleep. Plenty of “luh” was shared back in the day before the plague broke out.

    Then we were afraid to even drink from glasses since nobody knew what brought it on.

    Love and experimentation goes on all the time. Freddie Mercury’s self professed soul mate was female and he left most of his estate to her. Even though his life was being shared, supposedly with a man.

    It’s a complex subject and bravo for this inexperienced boy to attempt to navigate his psyche in public. Since it’s being DEMANDED.

    And newsflash. All the boyz love the fun of the boobs. Gay or straight LMAO.

  174. Does anybody really believe that Adam would consider having sex with a woman?

    I think he’s OPEN to having sex with a woman. Just like I am (I’m female). I’m not actively trolling the streets to get me some girl action, but I don’t believe in discounting 50% of the population, just because they’re female.

    On a different note, I’m not sure his mom would be giddy with pride at the oral sex answer, but his honestly and integrity is a testament to her (and his dad’s) good parenting.

  175. I’ll be honest, suebrody, I will likely feel a little weird about buying Out magazine myself. Which bothers me

    Me too!! I felt exactly like this when I was looking at Barnes and Noble the other day. In fact, I didn’t even want to ask the clerk where the magazine was because I would have felt embarrassed. Then I felt bad about the fact I would have felt embarrassed. What is wrong with me. Despite these feelings, once I track the magazine down, I WILL BUY it!!! Not sure if I will be able to ask the clerk where it is though.

    Oh well . . . I’m trying! Glad Adam can be so gracious to all of us who have so many contradictory feelings but still love him.

    I have no problem at all buying gay books and magazines. I buy them and look them right in the eye.

  176. Sydia, this is OUT and the language is appropriate for that type of publication as it is intended for mature readers and it is not a Disney publication.

    When on TV or general viewers interviews Adam does not swear, he knows when it is inappropriate.

  177. When I read the rest of that quote, I thought more of Megan, of Lil, of some of the contestants from prior seasons who didn’t really have a lot of experience prior to the show or a strong musical identity before going on the show.

    Well, I concede, that makes sense. Certainly every year there are contestants like that. And I’m not contesting Adam is in fact a saavy guy. He clearly is. The quote just caught my eye from the point of view of Idol history, how a lot of the folks from way outside the LA/New York entertainment axis have turned out to be such strong competitors against the sort of contestants Kara called “package” people this year.

    He won me back with his honest but still confused approach to the female vajayjay.

    Oh honey. If you’ve done it once in a decade and it felt nasty, I don’t think you’re bicurious. I hate haggis once on a dare–didn’t make me Scottish. Or Scotch-curious.

  178. And, strangely enough, a person’s sexual orientation may be the least interesting and least important thing about that person.

    Adam is a sexy guy, interested in sexy performances, and a sexy persona, but he wants the freedom to be all that and still have his music be the most interesting and important thing about him.

    FifthHouseSun….Well Said…

  179. KLI: Despite these feelings, once I track the magazine down, I WILL BUY it!!! Not sure if I will be able to ask the clerk where it is though.

    I checked for it at a bookstore last week and have to admit these same concerns crossed my mind, but no more! I’m just grateful this interview wasn’t published in Playboy… or Hustler… then I’d have some serious ‘splainin’ to do! That’s a line I won’t cross for entirely different reasons than anything in or about this magazine.

    From what I’ve seen in the excerpts here posted above and in the comments, it’s all fascinating stuff, entirely in context, and the interviewer did a great job in asking some questions that filled in some of the gaps in what we’ve all been wondering – and what I mean by that are the important parts, which is the discussion surrounding the show, the tour, and his relationship with the other contestants. No one else has really asked some of these questions before. It’s nice to see someone did their homework for once instead of rehashing the same old crap. It’s just too bad some little one-liners receive the most attention simply because they’re the most salacious – but I guess that’s typical of the society in which we live.

  180. I finally got around to reading this entire interview since I arrived home from work. I absolutely ADORE it!! And I also love Jill Hudson! ;)

    I always love how Adam is so brutally honest. His description of his strong masculine side and strong feminine side is spot on. That is how I have always perceived Adam. I also got such a kick out of all of his tour female fans. Yup, I was one of them as were most of us. To be honest, this interview was a whole lot better than those few short paragraphs we were introduced to a few days ago.

  181. I’m not at all embarrassed to buy a gay magazine. For one thing, some of the best written articles I’ve read have been in gay publications. For another, I just wouldn’t care if people thought I was gay.

  182. This may already have been posted, but for those who have been wondering where to find Out, it’s in the “Men’s Interests” section in my Barnes and Noble.

  183. maturin: Oh honey. If you’ve done it once in a decade and it felt nasty, I don’t think you’re bicurious. I ate haggis once on a dare’“didn’t make me Scottish. Or Scotch-curious.
    LOL!! Don’t necessarily agree with you, maturin, but your quote is priceless! :grin:

  184. adamaloha
    11/16/2009 at 5:21 pm
    I may feel strange about buying Out magazine, but not because I fear people will think I am gay. I’d feel embarrassed if they think I’m fangirling Adam Lambert.
    I always thought I was too mature and sophisticated for that. Obviously I’m not.

    Haha! Seriously, that’s the root of it right there. I was just as uncomfortable buying RS and Details with him on the cover, simply because it’s HIM on the cover!!! Good forbid if he ever makes an appearance on the cover of Tiger Beat – life as I know it may cease to exist. Hmm…. maybe I can think up angle and sell a cover story to Outdoor Photographer, then all will be right in my world…..

  185. Regarding the gay community and the value of a bunch of straight women trying to comprehend this topic, please read my friend’s remarks to a female Adam fan who as one of a zillion invaded a gay blog to argue with the comm over their comments about Adam’s choices. She had no business being there- way out of her league – let alone being persistent but this is the relative point he made:

    Which brings us to Adam and your posts here. Adam is gay and we here are gay. We can relate to Adam and his circumstances in a way that people who are not gay could not possibly. And his career is, of course, of great interest to us.

    We understand clearly the discrimination and hatred he has had to face which makes his success of great importance to many of us here. Sure, some of us will criticize him for some things, and, believe me, Adam will understand those criticisms.

    He knows we’ll let him know. But much of his greatest support will be found here amongst us. I am one of his most devoted fans, trust me.

  186. He could have just said, ‘I don’t really remember. I was 18 and I was drunk.’  He didn’t need the gross part.

    If I remember correctly, the interviewer is the one who used that word in his question (probably shouldn’t have). Adam just agreed…….

  187. k0ka

    i can’t read it . too much cursing.
    can’t imaging any women reading it either.

    I’m reading it from under my burqa.

  188. sumidol, hug right back. I’m 46, and don’t expect to see real tolerance for anytime soon. However, when you think what a HUGE deal it was for Ellen to come out on her show, and how you now see same sex adults kissing on dramas, not just comedies (latest : FlashForward), you feel a bit more hopeful.

  189. auntieaimee
    11/16/2009 at 5:44 pm
    Does anybody really believe that Adam would consider having sex with a woman? I don’t. I don’t understand why he feels the need to keep the door open on that issue, either. It sounds disingenuous. Just be yourself, Adam.

    Well, ya see, I think he is being himself. I think he is an adventurous, sexual person who isn’t afraid to admit that he is curious.
    Doesn’t mean he is less gay, only that he is open to new experiences.

  190. And newsflash. All the boyz love the fun of the boobs. Gay or straight LMAO.

    I had to laugh at that because tomorrow’s “Modern Family” episode is supposed to touch on that subject- no pun intended!

  191. M’thinks he’s still carrying around his Kris crush. Interesting that Kris isn’t religious…….

    It wasn’t a bad interview until that last question. TMI once again Adam. TMI. The world doesn’t need to know that you’ve had oral sex with a woman.

  192. kt_cle
    11/16/2009 at 5:02 pm

    The thought that just popped up in my brain that made me chuckle’ ¦ we get ‘growing up’ stories from both Kris and Adam today’ ¦ Kris talks about his Christmas pj’s and board games, Adam talks about oral sex with a girl.

    Just sort of reinforces the generalizations about the Kris vs. Adam stuff, doesn’t it? That said, I found the interviews with both guys to be entertaining.

    THIS SO MUCH

    And that’s why I have this screen name on the internet. Not just for Adam purposes.

  193. i can’t read it . too much cursing.
    can’t imaging any women reading it either.

    I’m reading it from under my burqa.

    LOL, Zsus!! Aunt Pittypat from “Gone With the Wind,” probably would have let this roll off her back.

  194. Anthrogeek and Adamaloha I agree with you BOTH. It’s the fact that I’m a supposedly mature woman. The first magazine was the hardest to walk up to the counter with. But now my local bookstore in Ann Arbor calls me when they get ANYTHING ADAM in!!! ” Would you like us to hold 2 copies of….. for you?”(One to keep in mint condition, and one to drool over!!) Maturity is WAAAAAY overrated!

  195. Does anybody really believe that Adam would consider having sex with a woman? I don’t. I don’t understand why he feels the need to keep the door open on that issue, either. It sounds disingenuous. Just be yourself, Adam.

    I expect that Adam is curious as he says. Just because one is genuinely curious, by the way, doesn’t mean you’ll ever even get around to it. For example, Kris Allen expressed being curious about sky diving, like maybe someday he’d like to try it. Doesn’t mean he’ll ever get around or actually do it. Also doesn’t mean Kris isn’t genuinely curious about maybe trying to sky dive…one of those days. And maybe not. Depends.

    And Adam seems like someone who likes to try different things, different looks, different music, different experiences. Like his stuff with Burning Man was about trying to open himself up there. Eh, seems like he tries to be open a lot. And again, just because one wonders about something about what something might actually end up feeling, doesn’t mean you will end up doing it. Doesn’t mean you don’t think about it now and then and go ‘hmmmm.’

  196. It wasn’t a bad interview until that last question. TMI once again Adam. TMI. The world doesn’t need to know that you’ve had oral sex with a woman.

    He answered a question he was asked and, actually, he had already said in the RS interview that he’d had oral sex with a girl over a spring break. He really couldn’t change his answer here. Also, he originally just gave a one word answer in this Out interview. He only expanded the answer when asked to do so.

  197. i can’t read it . too much cursing.
    can’t imaging any women reading it either.

    As my 83-year-old Southern mother would say “Curse words are just words. You either give them power over you or you don’t.”

    This 40-something-year-old woman read every word of the article and was not offended by a single one.

  198. In the end, here’s what I see. I see gay men totally different than lesbians. Lesbians are never about the sex act in and of itself, in fact they have to remember to put that part into a relationship, whereas with dudes, they tend to be first and foremost about the sex I’m not saying is better or wrong or even really matters. I honestly see these trends from people I know who are unconcerned by me because I’m an old, non judgmental, woman who never gives a flying fuck who anybody exchanges sexual interaction with and for what reason.

    So what Adam has said/will say/leaves out doesn’t matter. Yeah, he can sing, but he’s not the next messiah of the gay movement in America. I think he’s made that crystal clear.

  199. Was it gross, or it was just not what you wanted?
    It was a little gross because I don’t think she was as clean as she could’ve been. It

    oh lordy, LOL great answer. seriously ladies, pay attention to stuff like this.

    And thank you OUT magazine for describing Kris as pretty, not merely cute. Amen.

  200. Also, he originally just gave a one word answer in this Out interview. He only expanded the answer when asked to do so.

    Which would have sufficed. He hasn’t learned the subtle way out of a question using ‘no comment’. He expanded on the answer commenting on the hygiene of the girl involved and that was tacky and unnecessary.

  201. When so much of the media is not worth our time, these three pages in Out are well-worth reading.


    Valilac,
    so true. Felt like I was back in the old Rolling Stone.

    I may feel strange about buying Out magazine, but not because I fear people will think I am gay. I’d feel embarrassed if they think I’m fangirling Adam Lambert. I always thought I was too mature and sophisticated for that. Obviously I’m not.

    adamaloha, so funny. Maybe if you say Wanda, Wanda, Wanda fondly during check out or something, you can up your cool chickness. Or who knows, if Adam keeps doing great interviews like this one, being Lambertarian may become cool. Or we’ll become more like him, and not care what the uniformed judge to be “how things are”.

    Candor, honesty, thoughtfulness, articulate, shrewd observations of complex social dynamics, speaking up for people whose opinions differ from your own to the point of defending, spot-on analysis of the extremely difficult personal and professional minefield he is negotiating, naked vulnerability ‘ ¦ Or we remember two-line discussion of awkward teenage sexual encounter?

    Adam does not shirk or shrink away from the question. No coward is he. You ask the question, you can be fairly certain you’ll get an honest answer.

    Right on, SusanM. And, IMHO, unblinking answers about the teenage encounter was a cohesive part of his whole unchecked honesty, courage and vulnerability in discussing a delicate subject of interest to this publication’s readers.

    And if every celebrity could match the excellent litany of abilities you so well outlined, Entertainment Tonight would not only be worth watching, it would be on PBS.

  202. I feel bad for oral sex girl. She knows who she is, and probably follows Adam news, and so it must be jarring to read such a nasty thing written about her in the press even if he doesn’t mention who she is. This isn’t really directed at Adam though, I just hate when celebrities do that in general. It is like some celebrities forget that people from the past probably have an interest in your career and will remember the event too.

    The Kris quote about religion is really weird to me. I mean, Kris has mentioned his church a lot, he was a worship leader, and went on missions. I don’t think it is fair to describe Kris as not really religious when it seems like religion does play a part in his life. Adam complains about people creating boxes for sexuality, but he is making these boxes of faith that Kris I guess doesn’t fit in for him

  203. Loved the interview….he is very smart and articulate and he is honest but hes also being a tease with he whole sexuality thing LOL cuz he doesnt want to alienate his female fans…Im not saying that hes lying and I appreciate that he cares and Im not about to contradict him and say that hes not curious but I also happen to think its very good marketing…Ive been saying as a joke he should fire his marketing peeps and do it himself and now Im really starting to believe it…HE created his image and carries himself very well..he doesnt need anything but his voice and his intellect to guide him.
    I love that he is comfortable with who he is and doesnt define himself by his personality. I really think thats the right attitude.
    Hes a very multi-faceted individual and you hardly see that except with actors. Really there arent that many “entertainers” because they cant do it all.they are either singers OR dancers OR actors/actresses. He can and is all three at once :)
    Hes also very gracious and seems genuinely nice.
    Honestly there isnt anything I dont like about him…except that he likes Britney Spears LOL

  204. The world doesn’t need to know that you’ve had oral sex with a woman.

    But the world already knows he once experienced an “interpretive drum b.j.” with a woman if his old my space postings are to be believed.

    I swear, I am going to spend the rest of my days wondering what the heck an “interpretive drum b.j.” is all about.

    Now that’s the interview question I want to hear! LOL.

  205. I feel bad for oral sex girl. She knows who she is, and probably follows Adam news, and so it must be jarring to read such a nasty thing written about her in the press even if he doesn’t mention who she is.

    More than likely she was also probably a teenager, also probably drunk, possibly unprepared and more than aware that what he said was probably true. No one is suddenly going to hit her with a huge spotlight , or even know if she doesn’t tell. Heck, she may not even remember the moment or care one way or another.

    Now if she has previously run around telling everyone that she slept with Adam Lambert, she has some explaining to do!

  206. is one of Adam`s best interview, (also LA Times the ultimate interview 1,2,3,4 parts)

    ITA. Adam is honest and articulate. He has done many long and deep interviews where he really worked on questions instead of giving short canned answers. He is honest through all these interviews and none of them contradicts one another.

    While lots of people in their 20’s or 30’s don’t have a clear picture of who they are and where their career holds, Adam has had these thought through. He takes full account for his acts and never regret. I like his music and I adore him as a person.

  207. I feel bad for oral sex girl. She knows who she is, and probably follows Adam news, and so it must be jarring to read such a nasty thing written about her in the press even if he doesn’t mention who she is.

    More than likely she was also probably a teenager, also probably drunk, possibly unprepared and more than aware that what he said was probably true. No one is suddenly going to hit her with a huge spotlight , or even know if she doesn’t tell. Heck, she may not even remember the moment or care one way or another.

    But that doesn’t justify his commenting on it the way he did. Discretion is the better part of valour and he wasn’t very discrete here. The added comment wasn’t necessary.

  208. Adam also said he reads the boards…hope he’s reading this one, seeing that most of the comments are positive and filled with love

  209. I moved the comments from the Headlines thread to the beginning of this new thread.

  210. I think it’s sad that at his age he has only been in love with two people, but since I am unmarried I have no idea if this is the norm.

    Its not sad, its normal and quite refreshing (IMO). I find it odd when people say they fall in love all the time. Seems a bit fickle to me. Plus I believe some people confuse loving/caring/obessing/lusting over a person with being in love. Meaningful, true, deep love doesnt come that often in a lifetime. So at 27, i think its great that he’s at least experienced it twice. Hope the third time is the charm :)

  211. Has anyone seen this yet? Comments by Michael Musto
    //blogs.villagevoice.com/dailymusto/archives/2009/11/the_semi-closet.php

    Quite odd, considering that his management seemed to have let him do everything he’s wanted to do (that we know of), including his album cover.
    Hmmmmm.

  212. *hugs suebrody*

    sydia thanks for sharing your opinion.you too sanduskday. I don’t neccessarily agree with them but they’re obviously valid and make sense.

    AMAZING interviewer.
    no I don’t think adam will have it w/a woman.if he’s drunk then he’ll do it.to me,it doesn’t seem that complicated.

    hmmmm I don’t know what oral sex is .I think I hve an idea,but really don’t want to google it.

    last thing(I have hw)

    primarily because of his cousin,

    what cousin ? Joel? he seemed ok, to me from his tweets. am I missing something?

  213. Discretion is the better part of valour and he wasn’t very discrete here. The added comment wasn’t necessary.

    Clearone: actually I agree with you. He shouldn’t have said it, but I’m glad he did because it made me laugh out loud.

    I’m shallow in that way . . . HAHA

  214. I would gather that Adam’s definition of religious is pretty much the same as mine….someone who goes to chrurch every Sunday, is controlled by the thought process of that religion, and tends to try and co-mingle a religious world with a secular world at every opportunity.

    Kris’ missions, as far as I can tell, were not religious in nature even though they may have been sponsored by his house of worship. They were work missions, where people get their hands dirty and worry about saving people’s lives and not their souls.

    I am sure Kris and Adam had many a late night talk about their philosophys. I am sure that Adam isn’t talking out of school when he expresses what he and Kris have talked about concerning faith and religion. By the way…there is a big difference between the two.

  215. gangreen29
    11/16/2009 at 6:18 pm
    I feel bad for oral sex girl. She knows who she is, and probably follows Adam news, and so it must be jarring to read such a nasty thing written about her in the press even if he doesn’t mention who she is. This isn’t really directed at Adam though, I just hate when celebrities do that in general. It is like some celebrities forget that people from the past probably have an interest in your career and will remember the event too.

    I have to agree with you on this one. I hope she hasn’t bragged to all her friends about it. I would feel a little less sorry for her if she had.
    Still, I feel for this woman, whoever she is.

  216. I think it’s sad that at his age he has only been in love with two people, but since I am unmarried I have no idea if this is the norm.

    Kelly Clarkson recently said in an interview that she had never been in love, and I believe she is around Adam’s age. I met my now husband at the age of 29 and I can say I never felt about anyone the way I do about him. I had loved someone – in a long term relationship – and been in lust a few times, but this relationship came on a whole different level. Perhaps that is what Adam is speaking of.

  217. mj, I thought I was just confuzzled bc every time I clicked on Newer Comments, one I had just read was at the top of the new page. Guess I’ve got the Mondays, too! LOL

  218. I have to agree with you on this one. I hope she hasn’t bragged to all her friends about it. I would feel a little less sorry for her if she had.
    Still, I feel for this woman, whoever she is.

    Yeah me too, so since she can’t speak for herself.. I will for her..
    ” you did’nt taste too wonderful yourself there hotie pants”

  219. Hey, for all we know, this former sexual partner was going to do a tell-all and he’s just pulling the rug out from under her!

  220. I hope she hasn’t bragged to all her friends about it.

    If she was as tipsy as Adam she probably doesn’t remember the activity or him.

  221. Yeah me too, so since she can’t speak for herself.. I will for her..
    ‘  you did’nt taste too wonderful yourself there hotie pants’ 

    Second time today you’ve made me laugh out loud! :)

  222. It wasn’t a bad interview until that last question. TMI once again Adam. TMI. The world doesn’t need to know that you’ve had oral sex with a woman.

    The oral sex thing is really old news….

    The only new piece of information there was….oh forget it, I won’t take you back there!

  223. (((hug)))) to suebrody from me toooo – what a fun and interesting day this has been, lots of lolz too from a lot of you!!!!!!!!!!!! you funny silly people make my day sometimes – thank you

  224. Life is pointless without laughter… so glad i could ablige.. :-P

  225. Heck, she may not even remember the moment or care one way or another.

    ummm, ANY woman would care….or at least she should. its quite embarrassing. I agree, the added part regarding her hygiene was a bit unnecessary. Not that its lewd or gross, but its slightly rude to the girl.

    And now that I think about it, any girl photographed w. Adam at that age might be the target of gossip boards. People love to speculate. I guarantee some nut job is already scouting for photos (nothing surprises me these days when it comes to OTT fans).

  226. ggdoorsfan
    11/16/2009 at 6:32 pm
    from the gawker’ ¦ read at your pleasure, leisure and for your entertainment’ ¦.

    Old news…already discussed and discarded.

  227. michael musto at the village voice weighs in….

    The Semi-Closety Marketing of Adam Lambert
    By Michael Musto
    Monday, Nov. 16 2009 @ 4:43PM

    Ever since American Idol’s mascara-wearing runner-up Adam Lambert came out, it seems his people can’t wait to get him back in a little.

    In the new Out 100 issue of Out–which I write for–editor Aaron Hicklin pens a sharp letter criticizing Lambert’s management for their namby-pambiness in trying to re-cloak his sexuality. Lambert gave the magazine a terrific interview, but his handlers were not so glorious, alas.

    Says Hicklin:

    *Adam’s people were reluctant to let him appear on the cover. They only let it happen if it was a group shot, preferably including someone straight. (This even though Out was first in line, ages ago, in asking for a Lambert cover. Somehow Details was granted a crack at him first, presenting the singer caressing a barely clad woman and talking about kissing girls, though he did also manage to get in the fact that he’s gay).

    *Out was urged not to make Adam too gay in the shot.

    *They were also informed that Adam probably wouldn’t be able to attend an Out 100 event because they didn’t want to jeopardize his record sales.

    Some progress, huh? I’m starting to feel better that I voted for the other guy.

    http://blogs.villagevoice.com/dailymusto/archives/2009/11/the_semi-closet.php

  228. KLI
    11/16/2009 at 5:28 pm

    I think it’s sad that at his age he has only been in love with two people, but since I am unmarried I have no idea if this is the norm.

    I don’t know about other people, but I think this is a surprisingly low number. To my great chagrin at times I fall in love quite easily, and I can’t even imagine only having experienced romantic attachment twice by the age of 27. Heck, I probably fell in love at least twice during the fall of my sophomore year in high school!!

    I think that some people just aren’t biologically programmed to fall in love very easily. Adam may be like that. He longs for love, but he doesn’t easily experience the trigger that makes you fall in love.

    He stated in the 4 part interview that he was working around the globe and focusing on his career since he came out at 18 without a clear ability to “know how” to pursue a romantic relationship. Gay people generally need to have a sense of those things or at least have time to figure it out. He didn’t. He wasn’t a “hunk” either, lets remember so the casual thing most likely didn’t occur. Thank God.

    He went directly onto the cruise ship job with a bunch of experienced performers. He stated that he finally decided to quit the ambition track (being in the band with Monte) and focus on being an adult in a relationship. He was about 24. He said he never could understand what everyone else did and wanted to know about it.

    Yes, it’s poignant imo. I’ve always said Adam’s quite inexperienced in alot of ways, from living in the bubble of working in the arts for 17 years.

  229. I guarantee some nut job is already scouting for photos

    Images of National Enquirer printing every picture of every girl they can find Adam with circa 1999. And the headline: “Which is the DIRTY girl who had oral sex with Adam Lambert?”

  230. I feel bad for oral sex girl. She knows who she is, and probably follows Adam news, and so it must be jarring to read such a nasty thing written about her in the press even if he doesn’t mention who she is.

    LOL well we all have been sorta funky after drinking, dancing, hanging out for 15 hours….etc…and I think we all know our less than “endearing” moments. Experienced straight guys wouldn’t have done that that night, that’s the difference LOL. Poor clueless kid back then. I think he’s a trooper ha ha. He again, just didn’t have a ready go to sound bite. It happens.

    I think it’s pretty amazing he did that where so many women complain men won’t and that he was looking for that intimacy. Or just cluelessly drunk ha.

  231. Re my Michael Musto link above, don’t miss reading the actual letter from the editor Aaron Hickler to Adam.
    Now we know why the cover had to be a group shot.

  232. Geez, that letter…I will go to the other thread.

    Every day is an interesting day in the life of an Adam fan, srsly…

  233. Well, thanks a bunch Michael Musto, lol. All of this stuff that’s clearly out of Adam’s control. Yet, I guess he will always be the one to get it from every direction.

    And, Michael Musto has been around the business a LONG time; none of 19/RCA’s concerns should have come as any type of surprise.

  234. And, Michael Musto has been around the business a LONG time; none of 19/RCA’s concerns should have come as any type of surprise.

    I used to follow him back during Queer As Folk.

  235. about the letter; I’ll wait for the new thred but RUH ROH!!

    anyone take bets on hoe many comments it’ll get?

    I’m sayinggggg…509?

  236. Some day, we can just go back to listening to Adam’s music and appreciating his vocals and mad performance skills. That’ll be cool, me thinks.

  237. And with that letter, OUT just lost a sale from me. I didn’t like the pictures anyways, I thought they were dull. And I don’t need to buy the magazine, or even click there and give them hits, to read the article. So there you go.

    I’ll rant about Michael Modesto in the new thread. Oh and way to prove my point guys about the lack of support in the gay community for Adam if he doesn’t do exactly what he is supposed to.

  238. EH…. why would we blame the management? I think Adam has stated clearly that he doesn’t want to be a poster boy for the gay movement. He wants to be a singer. Yes, he is gay but that is not what he wants to be famous for. I think the editor wanted to make him into a poster boy and Adam refused. Simple as that.

  239. Now that mj has moved some of the excellent discussion on this article from headlines to the start of this thread — and thanks, mj — may I encourage all those who haven’t enjoyed them to do so.

    And just say, again, dhunken, your comment, now on page 3, is probably being crib noted by Adam’s publicist for his next interview. Wonderful post.

    The whole idea of making people’s talents be the most important and interesting things about them and moving off – or way down on the box ’em in and define ’em list – the gender of the person whom they might marry (when the happy day comes that is legal everywhere) is such stealth racialism on Adam’s part.

    What I don’t know is if he is aware of this brilliant tactic. Of if it may just be a fortunate by-product of his unwavering honesty.

    Though it could easily be part of his revolution’s strategic Master Plan.

  240. Has anyone seen this yet? Comments by Michael Musto
    //blogs.villagevoice.com/dailymusto/archives/2009/11/the_semi-closet.php

    I saw this and felt bad for Adam. Seems no matter what he does, someone is complaining. Here he is in a frank conversation and on the cover of OUT, and still there are complaints about his management (which may be justified).
    Everything he does is scrutinized to the 100th power by the media, bloggers, internet fan sites…its nuts

  241. There’s a lot that could be said about Michael Musto. Long history

  242. I think some people misunderstand what “religious” means. Kris is a strong Christian. His faith is more about his own relationship with God and the way he treats other people and makes a difference in the world. Even Jesus wasn’t interested in “religion.” Religion is more for the Pharisees, those people who take pride in appearing to be holy and only focus on rules and not real love. I’m not saying anything about Danny because I don’t know. Maybe he just doesn’t come off as open-minded as Kris does. As a Christian I think it is important to share your faith without forcing it on anyone, and that’s hard to do.

  243. Some day, we can just go back to listening to Adam’s music and appreciating his vocals and mad performance skills. That’ll be cool, me thinks.

    maybe this is just me ,but a voice can only get you so far. I live the contreversies,scandals,-gates,interviews,and especially the person.

    g2g b bck soon..

  244. Old news’ ¦already discussed and discarded.

    discussed, never discarded… :D everyone has what they call their taste level, and for me… for you, for me, one person’s honesty is another person’s tacky, and i just find the interview tmi – and not in a good way….. i’m no prude or neophyte, been around the block a time or two, but i’ve never personally seen the need for anyone to discuss intimate, graphic sexual details in print – even more interesting that it’s a new artist on the eve of a major record launch, for no other reason except for the pure shock value, and cheap hype to draw interest… whatever works for him and them i guess, and more power to them… there is something to be said for discretion, and tact in relaying info in an interview, regardless of who the targeted audience is… just sayin, ymmv, and all that rot…

  245. There’s a lot that could be said about Michael Musto. Long history

    i’ve seen him make his rounds on the gossip shows, and cable news shows… his name is familiar to me, but i admit i dunno much about him… i just always got the impression he was the ”go to” guy, or on the short list when they needed the gay ”viewpoint” on the cable news shows, and for pure gossip on the fluff entertainment shows…

  246. Gonna comment before I read the comments, just cuz, lol. First of all, I love the kid. I really do.

    Reading this article almost made me a bit emotional. Back in the eighties and nineties, I hung out with a group of gay males. It was an odd time for the gay community. Even I as a straight woman got that. Almost all of them were living this double life. Out to their friends and maybe a few family members but more often not. Closeted for their safety, even in liberal NY.

    Among them was this kid, my baby brother. Who had never been in the closet. Even when we moved to VA. He was bashed, beaten, and taunted, but never closeted. Seeing how Adam is living his life reminds me of my brother, who embraced his masculine and feminines side. He was a guy who could go out to a straight bar, get harrassed by some goon, kick his ass, and then bitch about his manicure. This is the guy who’s favorite t-shirt said “I wanna live on a planet, where all the girls look like Janet” (The pic on the shirt was one of Janet nude from the waist up, covering her boobs, lol, gay dudes love boobs), yet would gush over Johnny Depp and Richard Grieco, I think he name was….But I digress….it was difficult being out. It still is.

    It was interesting seeing them navigate this world, straight on their job, getting married some of them, dating and bedding women and men, etc.

    Flash forward to today. Adam. Open. Honest. Unashamed. I am in awe of him, the same way I was in awe of my brother who had the strength to be himself even though unlike Adam he was from a very fundamentalist family, who would rather he had hid who is was. That didn’t stop them from loving him, but he was judged harshly. Well some of us are doing that to Adam I am sure. He’s too much. Too Open, Honest, Unashamed.

    I am not gonna judge. Because if one kid can see that he’s okay. Okay if he doesn’t define himself as butch or fem, this or that. I’ve seen these kids die apart from their families because they couldn’t get past the crap. I’ve seem them leave home far too early because their parents couldn’t stand the sight of them. So maybe Adam isn’t gonna achieve what I initially thought he would. Maybe he won’t dominate the world music scene. Maybe he won’t have a number one single. What he will have is a coterie of people who really hear what he is saying. Not by standing on a soap box, but by just being his damn fierce self. Fearless, and Fierce. I am in awe of him. And thankful.

  247. I think this was an informative article and the interviewer asked some interesting questions.

    I am, again, very impressed how Adam can articulate his thoughts in very honest and simple terms…”Your sexuality doesn’t define you…we need to move forward….and just be“. Adam is evolving in his life experiences and doesn’t want to be put in a box and , I feel, is being honest when he says he does not rule out having a relationship with a woman. He is a very open person to what life has to offer him.

    I think this article shows just how passionate Adam feels about his music. And how it really is ‘all about the music’ to him.

  248. “Some day, we can just go back to listening to Adam’s music and appreciating his vocals and mad performance skills. That’ll be cool, me thinks”

    Words of wisdom from the younger generation

  249. I love outrageously honest Adam. True, he might have . . . overshared a little about that particular experience, but he was asked, he answered, and I thought it was funny. (I hope somewhere, wherever that girl is, she can laugh, too.)

    Incidentally, when he referred to oral sex with a girl in RS I just assumed he meant the girl went down on him (a lot of men pretty much DO define oral sex that way, you know). I find it kind of sweet that he meant he went there.

  250. Sydia He was answering a question, which was about if he had liked being with a woman. I think he gave an honest, unfiltered response.

    That is why I think Adam is being completely honest about his sexuality. I think he just tells it like it is for him. It is crazy to me how people have a need to say he is not being honest when he answers the extremely personal questions they are determined to ask him. If he didn’t want to be honest, he would have told a lot of lies before this that would have been more advantageous and politically correct for him in both the straight world and the gay world.

    I find it interesting that some people who have experienced disrespect and intolerance because they dont fit within a certain box defined by sexual societal norms feel it is okay to question and be disrespectful and unaccepting of someone else’s expressions of sexuality. Why do these people feel that a gay person must fit within a certain box of their making?

    I hate the “he is not talking gay enough” mentality. Adam is as gay as he is. He is as straight as he is not. He has said very forthrightly that he is gay. He has said he has some (probably mild) curiousity about women. Right now lots of people find it sexy to be sexually curious. Straight girls who kiss each other (Madonna/Brittney) don’t get called on the carpet for “lying” about “acting” bi- curious. Why should he have to have some extra “you can’t have fun flirting with sexuality” onus placed on him just because he is gay?

    I understand this editor might have found it offensive if Adam’s record company told them not to make Adam sound too gay. His record label very well may have an agenda about this, but apparently, many people in the gay community have an agenda about not wanting him to sound too straight. What a crazy world for Adam to navigate, with hate and criticism coming from both sides. It just must be very tiring.

    Especially when you know you are talented, (and it is not conceited to know you are really good at something; he would be stupid if he did not know,) and what you really care about is making music, and all you really want to do is “sing your face off” and be able to make it work for you in the world.

    Sheesh!!!! Adam has so many extra obstacles and bs to overcome that other entertainers don’t have. I wish him extra energy and stamina to go forward and make changes for himself and maybe even for others who come after him.

    None of this should even be an issue.

  251. Great post abbysee. Some of the commenters who think Adam is too open are judging him. Making the rules for how he handles his life is not up to any of us gay or straight. You get that.

  252. dhunken: I will and can only fall in love with a person who is of the same sex. My soul mate if you will. That is the only thing that truly defines me as gay. All the other stuff is just variations of persons sexuality and likes and dislikes. Adam is coming out with a very mature and a very real definition of Adam the person. IMHO

    dhunken, You and Adam are doing a good job in spreading understanding about what it means to be gay, and what that means in the context of the whole person. Don’t stop!

  253. Perhaps Adam is far too articulate for his own good when talking about oral sex with a so called smelly woman. I’m thinking Adam just doesn’t dig the scent of a woman. End of story. From armpits to twats, women just are plain old stanky. LOL

  254. evanjane
    11/16/2009 at 7:40 pm
    Perhaps Adam is far too articulate for his own good when talking about oral sex with a so called smelly woman. I’m thinking Adam just doesn’t dig the scent of a woman. End of story. From armpits to twats, women just are plain old stanky. LOL

    awwwwwwww thanks I need that laugh.. :-P

  255. I am not gonna judge. Because if one kid can see that he’s okay. Okay if he doesn’t define himself as butch or fem, this or that. I’ve seen these kids die apart from their families because they couldn’t get past the crap.

    abbysee, thank you. Great post.

  256. I am not gonna judge. Because if one kid can see that he’s okay. Okay if he doesn’t define himself as butch or fem, this or that. I’ve seen these kids die apart from their families because they couldn’t get past the crap. I’ve seem them leave home far too early because their parents couldn’t stand the sight of them. So maybe Adam isn’t gonna achieve what I initially thought he would. Maybe he won’t dominate the world music scene. Maybe he won’t have a number one single. What he will have is a coterie of people who really hear what he is saying. Not by standing on a soap box, but by just being his damn fierce self. Fearless, and Fierce. I am in awe of him. And thankful.

    The whole post is beautiful and sad. I’ve seen the same things. I was holding tears back, but lost it when I read this part.

  257. You went down on her?
    Uh-huh.

    Was it gross, or it was just not what you wanted?
    It was a little gross because I don’t think she was as clean as she could’ve been. It wasn’t the act of it that really turned me off. I don’t really remember.

    TMI.

    This is the 2nd time that Adam’s telling the media about girls being smelly. Seems like a pattern. Kind of odd, to me. Then again, it was a strange question to ask. Bottom line, I don’t think talking this way is helpful to Adam, it is kind of a gross thing to say. And cruel maybe to the girl.

  258. Great posts everyone! You all know I love me some Adam! But here’s a note to BB, the way you respond to some of the questions put to you shows alot. #1. You’re honest and we so love that about you..so don’t change a thing there. #2 But there is sometimes a little finesse that needs to be applied when you are asked a question for which an honest answer might either hurt or embarass someone else or leave your audience wanting a little less information, I’m just sayin. Let’s back up a minute though, that question was a set-up too. The interviewer knew full well how you would respond to that question…graphically, and she went for it. “Was it gross….” Paleeeeessssse! Don’t get caught up in that, Adam. You are the one that will pay the price for it, not the person asking the question. You can be honest without oversharing and potentially hurting someone. And here is the thing; some things just don’t get said out loud.

    One more thing and I am off my soap box. Adam, you keep mentioning how intrigued you are with the notion of being with a woman. Well then, you better learn to be more discreet BB because discretion is very sexy to a real woman……indiscretion, not so much. (Trust me, you want a real woman for this, not an amateur. That way everyone ends up happy). And here is a tip….the best oral sex comes right after a shared bottle of wine and a shared hot soapy shower. Bon Appetit!

  259. You went down on her?
    Uh-huh.

    Was it gross, or it was just not what you wanted?
    It was a little gross because I don’t think she was as clean as she could’ve been. It wasn’t the act of it that really turned me off. I don’t really remember.

    Well that’s one girl who probably won’t be buying his album if she reads this …lol

  260. Then again, it was a strange question to ask.

    But it was asked, and it was asked if he liked it. I think the answer was part of his out loud processing. I think he was wondering, now did it not work for me because it was a woman or because of the rest?

  261. I just don’t think he shows class when he says things like that. But that’s all I’ll say about it.

  262. People that read Out magazine will be prepared to read something like that. He didn’t say it in People magazine. I honestly don’t think that he would. My dorm neighbor used to get Out and it can be explicit.

  263. Well I had been enjoying this article, but I really feel my enjoyment with it has been compromised with that editor in chief letter. I will NOT be buying their magazine, I’m write the to polititely tell them they lost a sale from this Barbie. And I will make sure I see it copied and pasted on another site, so that I don’t even give them a hit to their website.

    I thought their previous out-of-context Tweet about Adam was bullshit, but was like ‘okay, all magazines do this, they want to sell stuff,’ but this just goes back to my thinking their were assholes. Clearly I just didn’t know how big.

  264. Then again, it was a strange question to ask.

    But it was asked, and it was asked if he liked it. I think the answer was part of his out loud processing. I think he was wondering, now did it not work for me because it was a woman or because of the rest?

    …………
    Exactly my thoughts. It would have weirder, if he said,”No Comment”. Talk about peeked interests?

    He was brave to tackle that question, and he was honest. He was right to the point, and we wouldn’t expect any less of him.
    He was seveneteen, and drunk, and totally going to uncharted territory. If the territory, had been fresher, his thoughts & ultimate experience, may have been different. Expectations are over rated, and sex gets complicated, once you’ve had the experience. Good or bad.

  265. You went down on her?
    Uh-huh.

    Was it gross, or it was just not what you wanted?
    It was a little gross because I don’t think she was as clean as she could’ve been. It wasn’t the act of it that really turned me off. I don’t really remember.

    Yeah this was kind of gross. Way too much info.
    The rest of it was good though.

  266. Well that’s one girl who probably won’t be buying his album if she reads this ‘ ¦lol

    LOL! You know that had to have happened in high school and his 10 year reunion is just around the corner. I would love to be a fly on the wall for that meeting.

    ETA-In regards to the oral sex comment, I wonder how people can still think Adam is full of BS when he says stuff like that. Obviously, he just speaks his mind. And let’s face it, it’s not like what he is saying is a surprise to anyone. Those experiences can be good or bad for a variety of different reasons and can differ from partner to partner.

  267. I think Adam is candid and refreshing. His comments about Michael and Danny were very gracious and supportive.

    About oral sex, honestly, it can be great and it can be not so great. There are a lot of factors involved. So Adam spoke about his experience. He said what was true to him.

    However the question was really way too intimate and private for me. Kinda rude on the interviewer’s part. And I think it is also not so great because teens think oral is not a big deal, and it to me it is honestly very personal.

  268. IdolThoughts said, “People that read Out magazine will be prepared to read something like that. He didn’t say it in People magazine”

    Except it won’t just be OUT readership who read it, it’ll be all over only including “family friendly” Idol blogs. He is savvy enough to know this.

    It’s way TMI.

    I do wonder if it was followed up with what he does with men and whether it is gross too. (rolls eyes)

  269. I’m just wondering. Does anyone know if Adam and the other idols get paid for magazine covers and articles? My 9 year old asked me and I have no idea.

  270. During the Presidential election, many Black people wanted to claim Obama “for the Black people.” However, though Obama IS Black and does all that he graciously can to encourage dignity, self-help and advancement among his ethnic group, he in fact belongs to and works equally for ALL the people. And so it is with Adam. Though he is Jewish, he states his respect for all religions. Though he is androgynous and prefers male sexual partners, he states his love and appreciation for women. Though he presently likes pop rock, he is a lover of many types of the world’s music. Adam’s destiny seems headed for the WORLD stage. No one community can claim this androgynous world star as their trophy. OUT is correct in featuring his example of boundless success…along with others who are also smashing barriers. 19 is correct in insisting that Adam stand proudly with gay/straight men and women of all races who have achieved national prominence. They look like the entire country will look when gender, race and sexual preference becomes irrelevant…when the Master Plan of Adam’s song becomes a reality. I thank Out, 19 and Adam for this cover and I thank Adam and Lady Gaga for demonstrating the different faces of androgyny with such determination.

  271. During the Presidential election, many Black people wanted to claim Obama ‘for the Black people.’  However, though Obama IS Black

    I see where you are going with the comparison but to be completely PC Obama is actually mixed. He is what you would call a Mulatto. His father was “Black” and his mother was a “White” woman and he was raised by his mothers family. It was also recently discovered that his wife, Michelle Obama also has “white” ancestry. I put these terms in quotation marked because they are outdated terms that are no longer useful because racial differences are no longer relevant as they have discriminatory connotations; the better term we use now is ethnicity and I think its better that way :)

  272. Michelle Obama also has ‘white’  ancestry.

    That ain’t no big whoop to most black folk in the americas. We all know that if we shake our family tree, there will be more often or not a caucasian ancestor falling out. Also mulatto really isn’t used often anymore, as it has even more discriminatory connotations than ‘white’.

    It’s funny about the oral sex conversation. A couple of years ago I was watching an episode of Oprah. They were talking about sexuality and women’s health. There was a female gynecologist on the panel who beseeched her female clients to take better care of their hygiene, in fact she said that during some vaginal exams that many were in fact smelly! So maybe there is something to that? LOL! She sorta gave them some hints on how they could take care of said smelliness, lol. Hmmmm. TMI, possible, but as a public service, maybe not.

  273. I just don’t think he shows class when he says things like that. But that’s all I’ll say about it.

    It was rude. He could have said it wasn’t for him. But I think the magazine was putting a lot of pressure on him. Out magazine has their own BIG agenda.

  274. Whoa!!! I had to walk away from my computer and calm down for awhile after reading that insulting, condescending, demanding, boundary-crossing, whiny piece of self indulgent arrogance.
    Why so angry? It’s simple. It’s not up to any adult to tell any other adult how to deal with the way they present their sexuality to the world, whether they’re gay, straight, bi, or sexless. Period. It’s intensely personal and each adult has the right to draw the lines wherever they see fit. Adam owns his own sexuality. He’s made that very clear. And he’s drawn his personal line for sharing about it much higher than most. But not high enough for Mr. Hicklin, apparently. That’s the first point. Arrogance.
    Second, Mr. Hicklin is implying – no, demanding, that as soon as a person who just happens to be gay enters the spotlight, their gayness had better be front and center or else. There’s a vague undercurrent of warning in his words. “I like you. I really do.” Then comes the “but” that makes up the rest of the letter. “But” what? But you won’t like him if he doesn’t jump to the crack of your whip? You won’t support his career if his definition of being true to himself isn’t in line with what YOU want it to be?
    “Someone has to be first, and we’re all counting on you not to mess this up.”
    Oh, so YOU, Mr. Hicklin get to decide what constitutes Adam being true to himself? Kinda contradictory, huh?
    Third, Adam is in a business contract. Mr. Hicklin seems to think that Adam’s allegiance lies with, first and foremost, making his gay orientation the focus of his singing career instead of it being to honor a legal contract he entered into willingly with his eyes wide open. He is legally bound to that contract. Any deviation from it could cost him his career and/or a lot of money. So easy for Mr. Hicklin to play fast and loose with another man’s personal dreams and livelihood.
    But the thing that really puts me over the edge with the audacity of this, *ahem*, editorial, is the fact that Adam has been and continues to be so courageous, fearless in his presentation of his personal approach to sexuality! And this is what he gets for it?!!! He graciously gives an open and frank interview in which he holds nothing back and he gets PUBLICLY chastised by the editor?!!!
    Ya know what this reminds me of? As some of you know, I was a fundamentalist __________ for over 20 years. I fervently believed in the message of that faith and tried my best to live by it by example. But that wasn’t enough for the agenda pushing, boundary crossing fanatics. No, unless I was actively promoting my religious beliefs and pushing them on others, I wasn’t a “true believer”. They didn’t get it. No one is ever really persuaded by that kind of in-your-face disrespect of a deeply personal issue. They may be frightened or intimidated into supporting it. But they are only truly persuaded by those who live it out without compromise in their daily lives, and Adam does that. I see the same disrespect coming from those like Hicklin. Adam’s candid R&S interview wasn’t enough. Okay. So he appears on the cover of Out and gives another candid interview. Still not enough? Puh-leeeeaaaase!! There’s a saying about the fundamentalist religion I was a part of. That it’s the only army that shoots its own wounded. Well, Hicklin would make it appear that there’s another group that fits that bill. Adam has stood in the line of fire. He has been shot at and yes, I would guess, wounded to some degree emotionally. No one can be the object of such hate as what those loony demonstrators outside the Idol Tour venues aimed at him and not be affected to some degree. And we only know that side of his experience. There could have been, and probably were, death threats, etc. aimed at him. Yet he stood firm and held his head high. But again, not high enough for Hicklin. So the guns begin to be, oh-so-subtle-like, aimed at Adam’s head.
    If, as some on this thread seem to think, most of Hicklin’s ire is aimed at 19 and the Idol machine, sorry, but the facts refute this. The letter is addressed to Adam, not 19. It’s Adam he finds wanting. It’s Adam he holds accountable before the world. It’s Adam he is making demands of. It’s Adam’s highly personal forms of sexual expression he is violating.
    Oh, and it’s Adam whose name and celebrity he is using to create controversy in order to bring attention to his magazine. And that, ladies and gentleman, is the real agenda here. IMO.
    Oh, and don’t even get me started on the sexist, woman hating, “six foot Barbie doll” comment.
    And BTW, Mr. Hicklin, it was Adam Lambert and his courage to be himself, and make me love him while he did it, that convinced me to finally embrace ALL people. I was well on my way due to the prodding of my own conscience, but it’s Adam who was the catalyst for the final throwing down of my homophobic baggage. It’s people like you, Mr. Hicklin, that made it take so long.

  275. Whoa!!! I had to walk away from my computer and calm down for awhile after reading that insulting, condescending, demanding, boundary-crossing, whiny piece of self indulgent arrogance.

    Why am I so angry? It’s simple. It’s not up to any adult to tell any other adult how to deal with the way they present their sexuality to the world, whether they’re gay, straight, bi, or sexless. Period. It’s intensely personal and each adult has the right to draw the lines wherever they see fit. Adam owns his own sexuality. He’s made that very clear. And he’s drawn his personal line for sharing about it much higher than most. But not high enough for Mr. Hicklin, apparently. That’s the first point. Arrogance.

    Second, Mr. Hicklin is implying – no, demanding, that as soon as a person who just happens to be gay enters the spotlight, their gayness had better be front and center or else. There’s a vague undercurrent of warning in his words. “I like you. I really do.” Then comes the “but” that makes up the rest of the letter. “But” what? But you won’t like him if he doesn’t jump to the crack of your whip? You won’t support his career if his definition of being true to himself isn’t in line with what YOU want it to be?
    “Someone has to be first, and we’re all counting on you not to mess this up.”
    Oh, so YOU, Mr. Hicklin get to decide what constitutes Adam being true to himself? Kinda contradictory, huh?

    Third, Adam is in a business contract. Mr. Hicklin seems to think that Adam’s allegiance lies with, first and foremost, making his gay orientation the focus of his singing career instead of it being to honor a legal contract (good or bad) he entered into willingly with his eyes wide open. He is legally bound to that contract. Any deviation from it could cost him his career and/or a lot of money. So easy for Mr. Hicklin to play fast and loose with another man’s personal dreams and livelihood.

    But the thing that really puts me over the edge with the audacity of this, *ahem*, editorial, is the fact that Adam has been and continues to be so courageous, fearless in his presentation of his personal approach to sexuality! And this is what he gets for it?!!! He graciously gives an open and frank interview in which he holds nothing back and he gets PUBLICLY chastised by the editor?!!!
    Ya know what this reminds me of? I was a fundamentalist __________ for over 20 years. I fervently believed in the message of that faith and tried my best to live by it by example. But that wasn’t enough for the agenda pushing, boundary crossing fanatics. No, unless I was actively promoting my religious beliefs and pushing them on others, I wasn’t a “true believer”. They didn’t get it. No one is ever really persuaded by that kind of in-your-face disrespect of a deeply personal issue. They may be frightened or intimidated into supporting it. But they are only truly persuaded by those who live it out without compromise in their daily lives, and Adam does that. I see the same disrespect coming from those like Hicklin. Adam’s candid R&S interview wasn’t enough. Okay. So he appears on the cover of Out and gives another candid interview. Still not enough? Puh-leeeeaaaase!! There’s a saying about the fundamentalist religion I was a part of. That it’s the only army that shoots its own wounded. Well, Hicklin would make it appear that there’s another group that fits that bill. Adam has stood in the line of fire. He has been shot at and yes, I would guess, wounded to some degree emotionally. No one can be the object of such hate as what those loony demonstrators outside the Idol Tour venues aimed at him and not be affected to some degree. And we only know that side of his experience. There could have been, and probably were, death threats, etc. aimed at him. Yet he stood firm and held his head high. But again, not high enough for Hicklin. So the guns begin to be, oh-so-subtle-like, aimed at Adam’s head.
    If, as some in these comments seem to think, most of Hicklin’s ire is aimed at 19 and the Idol machine, sorry, but the facts refute this. The letter is addressed to Adam, not 19. It’s Adam he finds wanting. It’s Adam he holds accountable before the world. It’s Adam he is making demands of. It’s Adam’s highly personal forms of sexual expression he is violating.
    Oh, and it’s Adam whose name and celebrity he is using to create controversy in order to bring attention to his magazine. And that, ladies and gentleman, is the real agenda here. IMO.
    Oh, and don’t even get me started on the sexist, woman hating, “six foot Barbie doll” comment.
    And BTW, Mr. Hicklin, it was Adam Lambert and his courage to be himself, and make me love him while he did it, that convinced me to finally embrace ALL people. I was well on my way due to the prodding of my own conscience, but it’s Adam who was the catalyst for the final throwing down of my homophobic baggage. It’s people like you, Mr. Hicklin, that made it take so long.

  276. Can we please dissect some other idol’s sexuality?

    Maybe Michael and Danny don’t like oral either. Maybe they do!!! Blahhhhh!!

    No, actually, no more of this.

  277. KatieJ

    What she said!!!!

    Whoa!!! I had to walk away from my computer and calm down for awhile after reading that insulting, condescending, demanding, boundary-crossing, whiny piece of self indulgent arrogance.

    Why am I so angry? It’s simple. It’s not up to any adult to tell any other adult how to deal with the way they present their sexuality to the world, whether they’re gay, straight, bi, or sexless. Period. It’s intensely personal and each adult has the right to draw the lines wherever they see fit. Adam owns his own sexuality. He’s made that very clear. And he’s drawn his personal line for sharing about it much higher than most. But not high enough for Mr. Hicklin, apparently. That’s the first point. Arrogance.

    Second, Mr. Hicklin is implying ‘“ no, demanding, that as soon as a person who just happens to be gay enters the spotlight, their gayness had better be front and center or else. There’s a vague undercurrent of warning in his words. ‘I like you. I really do.’  Then comes the ‘but’  that makes up the rest of the letter. ‘But’  what? But you won’t like him if he doesn’t jump to the crack of your whip? You won’t support his career if his definition of being true to himself isn’t in line with what YOU want it to be?
    ‘Someone has to be first, and we’re all counting on you not to mess this up.’ 
    Oh, so YOU, Mr. Hicklin get to decide what constitutes Adam being true to himself? Kinda contradictory, huh?

    Third, Adam is in a business contract. Mr. Hicklin seems to think that Adam’s allegiance lies with, first and foremost, making his gay orientation the focus of his singing career instead of it being to honor a legal contract (good or bad) he entered into willingly with his eyes wide open. He is legally bound to that contract. Any deviation from it could cost him his career and/or a lot of money. So easy for Mr. Hicklin to play fast and loose with another man’s personal dreams and livelihood.

    But the thing that really puts me over the edge with the audacity of this, *ahem*, editorial, is the fact that Adam has been and continues to be so courageous, fearless in his presentation of his personal approach to sexuality! And this is what he gets for it?!!! He graciously gives an open and frank interview in which he holds nothing back and he gets PUBLICLY chastised by the editor?!!!
    Ya know what this reminds me of? I was a fundamentalist __________ for over 20 years. I fervently believed in the message of that faith and tried my best to live by it by example. But that wasn’t enough for the agenda pushing, boundary crossing fanatics. No, unless I was actively promoting my religious beliefs and pushing them on others, I wasn’t a ‘true believer’ . They didn’t get it. No one is ever really persuaded by that kind of in-your-face disrespect of a deeply personal issue. They may be frightened or intimidated into supporting it. But they are only truly persuaded by those who live it out without compromise in their daily lives, and Adam does that. I see the same disrespect coming from those like Hicklin. Adam’s candid R&S interview wasn’t enough. Okay. So he appears on the cover of Out and gives another candid interview. Still not enough? Puh-leeeeaaaase!! There’s a saying about the fundamentalist religion I was a part of. That it’s the only army that shoots its own wounded. Well, Hicklin would make it appear that there’s another group that fits that bill. Adam has stood in the line of fire. He has been shot at and yes, I would guess, wounded to some degree emotionally. No one can be the object of such hate as what those loony demonstrators outside the Idol Tour venues aimed at him and not be affected to some degree. And we only know that side of his experience. There could have been, and probably were, death threats, etc. aimed at him. Yet he stood firm and held his head high. But again, not high enough for Hicklin. So the guns begin to be, oh-so-subtle-like, aimed at Adam’s head.
    If, as some in these comments seem to think, most of Hicklin’s ire is aimed at 19 and the Idol machine, sorry, but the facts refute this. The letter is addressed to Adam, not 19. It’s Adam he finds wanting. It’s Adam he holds accountable before the world. It’s Adam he is making demands of. It’s Adam’s highly personal forms of sexual expression he is violating.
    Oh, and it’s Adam whose name and celebrity he is using to create controversy in order to bring attention to his magazine. And that, ladies and gentleman, is the real agenda here. IMO.
    Oh, and don’t even get me started on the sexist, woman hating, ‘six foot Barbie doll’  comment.
    And BTW, Mr. Hicklin, it was Adam Lambert and his courage to be himself, and make me love him while he did it, that convinced me to finally embrace ALL people. I was well on my way due to the prodding of my own conscience, but it’s Adam who was the catalyst for the final throwing down of my homophobic baggage. It’s people like you, Mr. Hicklin, that made it take so long.

  278. KatieJ
    11/16/2009 at 11:37 pm
    Whoa!!! I had to walk away from my computer and calm down for awhile after reading that insulting, condescending, demanding, boundary-crossing, whiny piece of self indulgent arrogance….

    Somebody give this girl a cigar!

  279. Adam said in the interview that he sometimes looks at the “message boards”.

    Is he referring to AO (his own website) or mjs here or what?

  280. Love your post, KatieJ. I really have nothing more to add because you and so many others have stated what I feel so eloquently.

  281. Love what he said about Danny, Kris, and Michael. I think Adam’s a really honest guy, it sounds like he really did appreciate Danny and Michael, and seems like from what Adam said they appreciated back. Love it. However, Kris is my mancrush, Adam can’t have him.

    For some reason I squealed when he said he did “that” with a girl even though I’m a straight guy.

  282. For some reason I squealed when he said he did ‘that’  with a girl even though I’m a straight guy.

    I think I like you, you are so damn adorable in your fanmanishness, lol.

  283. KatieJ, your post was so awesome (as well as many others in both threads) that I have nothing else to add except to encourge people to go read the entire article! It’s extremely enlightening on many levels, and does nothing more than increase my admiration for Adam even more. He could be an ignorant ass and I’d still love his voice and performance style, but lucky for me, he’s one of the most engaging, charming, intellectual, thought-provoking, and yes, entertaining people I’ve seen in the media in a very long time. It’s unfortunate that in the midst of this far-ranging and thorough discussion about sexuality, Idol, and cultural acceptance, all that it will be remembered for is 1) a mere one-liner about some sexual experience that occurred at an age when most young people are testing their personal boundaries, and 2) the preposterously ignorant self-serving abomination of a letter from the idiot of an editor that only serves to counter all the positivity put forth in the interview in one fell swoop. Nevertheless, I look forward to Part 2 tomorrow!

    There’s a way in which both you and Neil Patrick Harris are being talked about as exceptions to the rule, to the idea that there could never be an out, gay leading man or male musical star. You both seem very confident and comfortable with who you are. But that’s not always true of your handlers. We’ve gotten plenty of push back from your management — and many other people’s — who say, ‘Well, let’s not be too gay’ ¦’ 

    Well, you know, I think that there’s something to that, though. I think the whole magic of this moment is that I’m not alienating anybody. I’m not trying to anyway. I want as many people to feel like they can like the music. I don’t want to edit myself to the point where I feel like I don’t have integrity. But at the same time, I feel like I don’t want to alienate people, so it’s really hard. It’s almost like being a political figure. It’s like a balancing act. I feel really good about how open I’ve been, ’cause I really don’t feel like I’ve hidden anything. It’s like the picking and choosing. When is it appropriate and when is it not? One of the things that I don’t like about the gay community is that people define themselves by their sexuality — and that’s bullshit. It shouldn’t be about that. It should be that it just so happens that you’re this or that, and that’s your sexuality. It doesn’t mean that that should dictate what your social group is or where you go out or who you talk to or what your interests are. That’s bullshit. That’s outdated.

  284. Once again, Adam impresses me with his insight, perspectives and good heart.

  285. Wow. KatieJ, I could not and would not sit by without comment. What you said was spot on and I applaud you. I find these blogs so interesting, informative and, dare I say it, inspirational. Yes, I dare say it! Sometimes it takes a while for the information I read to sink in. I find myself mulling over the comments and lining them up with how I myself feel too.

    I will not attempt to verbalise my thoughts on this editorial since so many have said so much so well. Suffice it to say that my love and support for Adam Lambert gets stronger by the day. I am fully aware that he is an entertainer and that ‘it ain’t that deep’ but somehow I get the feeling that this man is no ordinary entertainer. If the universe aligns itself and people learn to open their hearts and minds I truly believe this could be the start of something special. It’s not a given, he’s not a success yet and I fear he may have a rocky path ahead of him. However, if he can take strength from his family, friends and us, his fans, he will be more than fine!

    MJ, I don’t know if you saw and have updated your post by the time this goes through but the 2nd half of the interview is already up.
    http://www.out.com/detail.asp?page=1&id=26192

    I may be overinvested, I’d be the first to admit as much, but there are some parts of this interview that really struck a chord with me. The final few questions are so revealing I think. The interviewer writes in the parts where he [sighs]. We see Adam as a strong and able man, confident in his ability and sure of himself. No matter how strong one may be though, as someone said upthread, the flack he has taken of late, and probably throughout his life, must be emotionally scarring.

    Adam, if you are reading, we are with you 100%. All the way. Keep being you.

  286. The second part is awesome!

    I love Adam ´s self-awareness and his openness to share his feelings and thoughts with the audience.

    This is endearing:

    My job is to make this look easy and fun. That’s the illusion, the vibe I’m trying to create for people to feel. That’s what I want to do as an entertainer, create a mood that rubs off on people. This is scary, and it is a lot of work. And I’m OK, I’ll be fine. But, wow, this is a lot. And I hope that people are compassionate about that. I took a chance, stepped my life up a little, have some opportunities, have a little money, and I’m doing the best I can. I’m doing the best I fucking can, you know?

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