David Archuleta took to Instagram to vent about people who are finding reasons to be “disappointed” in him. He asks why that is, but quickly answers his own question. These people are really disappointed because he came out as LGBTQ last year.
“Why are people getting triggered that I have red lips??”
“Why are people getting triggered that I have red lips?? David captions a photo of a conversation he had on social media. David’s lips looked pinkish/red in a video and he explained spicy lips turn his lips red. “Do Chile flakes do that?” a person asked. “I’m so disappointed.”
David asks why the person is disappointed. “That my lips react after eating spicy food and there’s nothing I can do about it? What would lipstick do to disappoint you anyway? It’s not my thing personally, but someone wearing it shouldn’t “disappoint” anyone.”
“Lipstick doesn’t suit you,” the person answered.
The American Idol season 7 alum then went on to describe his frustration with people who are “disappointed” seemingly for his coming out last June.
“People look for reasons to be upset or ‘disappointed'”
“I find it interesting that people look for reasons to be upset or ‘disappointed’ (a word that’s been used at me more frequently lately) at me for things like this. I wasn’t wearing lipstick. So why is this assumption being made?”
David continued, “Another example is when I posted pictures of me in my costume in Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat. Joseph’s coat of many colors. I had several people use the “disappointed” word. And even more things were said.”
Currently David is playing the lead role in the Andrew Lloyd Webber/Tim Rice musical production, playing at the Tuacahn in Utah.
David explains, “I just feel these kind of comments I’ve been receiving lately are reflective of people’s attitude towards something else about me and this is how it comes out perhaps,” He doesn’t believe it has anything to do with his actions.
“They’re associating things to my coming out last year and want to justify their feelings of disappointment”
“Assuming I’m wearing lipstick. Upset that Joseph’s coat is technicolored. What does that sound like?” David asks. “Rather they’re associating things to my coming out last year and want to justify their feelings of disappointment that they felt for me for coming out. Not for what I’m doing. Because the reasons they say they’re’ disappointed are no reason to be upset or disappointed at someone.”
David took to social media last June to share that he’s LGBTQI+. In the past year, he’s been open with his fans as he navigates his feelings. Back in December, he revealed that he came to realize that he’d rather be with a man than a woman. He expressed frustration that the church couldn’t accept him choosing to be with a man.
“Yes I am Queer…Why are these things upsetting to people?”
David want to know “why are these things upsetting to people? Why would they be disappointed in me for wearing a rainbow coat? Or for thinking I had lipstick on? Because you can associate these things with LGBT things, is it not?”
“My coat is my costume. My lips were red from eating spicy food.”
“These things may not be LGBT related, but yes I am queer.” he writes. “The difference from before a year ago and now is this is just a known public part of my life…and I still live my life [as] I’ve always known how to.” David continues, “But I do feel sad when people look for reasons to not like me because of that. I don’t think anyone should be disliked for being gay. I hope I still show that I am me as I always have been!”
“People expect me to be a different person now”
“I think the assumption is that coming out people expect me to be a different person now. Or to be bad from some reason?” David explains that people hide who they are so they won’t be misunderstood or judged. “I hope you know LGBT+ people aren’t bad. And many more people around you than realized may be, but because of prejudices…may just keep it to themselves to not be misjudged for it.”
David hopes that fans understand him a little better a year later. “You know a little more about me. You know I’m queer and the difficulty that’s been for me to be accepting with myself about it.” He wants to be a “sincere” person. He says, “I am growing and learning about myself still (as we all are). And I share that journey of what I learn whether through my music or just other platforms.”
David isn’t trying to shove “my gayness in their face”
David is frustrated. “I…don’t like being judged and called a disappointment for people thinking I’m ‘shoving my gayness’ in their face when rather they’re just interpreting it like that.” He writes, “I am simply me. Yes I am queer. But I am not trying to make you queer or gay just be seeing parts of my life. Watching people with their straight lives didn’t make me strait lol. (And I sure tried hard).”
David doesn’t mean to be offensive (an aside: if people are offended that’s their problem not yours! keep being yourself!) He only shares that part himself “every now and then” like he shares every other part of his life. “Whether it was my family, my career, my childhood, my hobbies, my beliefs, my time as a missionary etc. And now being queer. I just don’t want to feel I have to keep secrets out of fear of what people think of me.”
“Doing that makes me afraid of myself thinking I’ll be rejected by people for being me,” David admits. “And them misunderstanding what it means to be LGBT. Probably where this whole reaction came from to begin with.”
“I was so fearful to just be!”
“Also, the reason I feel it’s important to talk about it is that a lot of people are afraid of being gay, or of gay people!” David adds, “Which makes people like me who are gay or LGBT who grew up around that language even afraid to exist!”
“I was so fearful to just be! To live! To exist! And it wasn’t until I was willing to be compassionate towards myself and learn more about being gay or LGBT that I stopped being so scared of myself. That I wasn’t defected or bad (as I felt all my life no matter how good everyone else thought I was because I kept it inside) and I simply just needed to get to now that part of me and love it.”
David concludes, “So that’s why I choose to talk about it. To help people who may misunderstand like I once did to see it with a different perspective. Which is just from my perspective I guess lol. :). That is all.”
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