Mary Murphy Shares Her Story of Domestic Abuse With Ellen DeGeneres

Ellen Degeneres proved to be a sensitive and sympathetic interviewer when So You Think You Can Dance judge, Mary Murphy, stopped by the Ellen Degeneres show to tell the story of her 8-year marriage to an abusive partner.

Mary teared up a few times as she described the rape and beatings dealt by her controlling husband, and her parents who insisted Mary needed to “make the marriage work.”

Ellen choked up a little herself when she commiserated with Mary, revealing that she had no support from family when she faced similar circumstances.

“I just want it out of my brain,” says Mary about why she chose to tell her story, “I want to stomp it out.”

Mary is featured in a cover story in this week’s US Magazine

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  • houstonrufus

    Wow. Well, God bless her. Domestic abuse is a wicked wicked thing and the effects never truly go away. I hope she can find some peace now.

  • poporange

    I think she is very brave comming forward and domestic violence is very wicked thing to go through..I know a freind in high school and someone eslse who had kids that did..It was just nasty how it effects everyone involved in different ways.Surprising how the some becomes the oulet for blame..I just wish there in the future taugher sentences for abusers in the Future..

  • Pam

    I’m glad that Mary has finally gotten up the courage to tell her story to the world. I can’t imagine the pain she’s been through but I do hope that her story will inspire others going through similar situations like this right now to get the courage to seek help.

  • TwigLA

    It is very brave of Mary to come forward with this. The ‘electric fence’ was the perfect description of the psychological impact domestic abuse has on it’s victims.

    My heart goes out to her. If just one person is saved by her story, if one friend or family member begins to listen and believe the horrid truths, it was worth the pain to tell.

  • Grammie Kari

    I watched the show and was in tears. Knowing how difficult it is for women to finally leave or make the abuser leave is no easy task. Mary was lucky to have a career which provided her with independence.

    Having her father apologize to her for not helping was an important part of the healing process. Now she can be at peace.

    I did not expect Ellen to reveal that she too had been abused and no one would help her. That tore at my heart strings. The pain does not go away entirely. This interview WILL help someone.

  • Truthiness

    Good for her for tellling her story and for the success in her personal life. And good for her for bringing up the statistics of how many people are killed a day. And for bringing how gradual the abuse can be, and the shame of it happening to them.

    I admire her for sharing her surviving, her thriving and her decision to share her story.

    And on a less serious note, thank goodness I don’t watch SYTYCD anymore, because I don’t see how I could rag on her for her shrieking and hot tamale train comments after seeing this segment and how much dance meant to her.