The Bachelor, Juan Pablo Galavis Laughs at an R Word Joke, Calls Detractors “Uncultured”

OMG. WTF is wrong with this guy? The Bachelor. Juan Pablo Galavis  laughs at a joke from one of his fans that uses the R word, and then calls the people who are offended “uncultured.”  He’s got to be kidding. But sadly, he’s not.

The Bachelor star retweeted a fan Thursday who shared an insensitive joke that made fun of people with mental handicaps. It read: “Not every flower can save love, but a rose can. Not every plant survives thirst, but a cactus can. Not every r—–d can read, but look at you go, little buddy! Today you should take a moment and send an encouraging message to a f–ked up friend, just as I’ve done. I don’t care if you lick windows, or interfere with farm animals. You hang in there cup cake, you’re f–king special to me, you’re my friend, look at you smiling at your phone! You crayon eating bastard you!”

When he retweeted the user, he added, “JAJAJAJAJA LOVED IT…” His comment has since been deleted.

Of course, he blames it on the “language barrier” claiming the word “retard” is a perfectly acceptable word in Venezuela. Huh? Venezuelans are in the habit of using offensive English language slurs, and no one bats an eye? OK then.

Galavis went on to defend himself, tweeting, “I’m BLESSED to speak SPANISH, an OK english and a LITTLE bit of portuguese… For those who DON’T I recommend to LEARN… #Culture.” He continued, “Yeap, an OK english, my WRITING is HORRIBLE but some of you already UNDESTAND me with all my MISTAKES… People, try to be HAPPY and enjoy JOKES and SARCASM… In Venezuela the R word is USED commonly and by NO means is to OFFEND anyone… #Relax #DifferentCulture #Respect.”

The reality star and single dad then told his followers, “Some people need to TRAVEL and get around the WORLD… The US is a GREAT country but there is a LOT out there… #openyourmind #learnculture.”

Let’s review. Those of you who find the use of a word widely considered offensive and a slur, ARE JUST A BUNCH OF UNCULTURED HICKS WHO NEED TO GET OUT OF THEIR HOUSES ONCE IN A WHILE. Juan Pablo is an idiot. Between this, the slut shaming and calling LGBT people “perverts,” it’s no wonder ABC didn’t cast him on Dancing with the Stars. And that contestant, Andi Dorfman called him an asshole. Which, apparently, he is.

Via E Online

Follow Me!

mj santilli

Founder/Editor at
Founder and editor of, home of the awesomest fan community on the net. I love cheesy singing shows of all kinds, whether reality or scripted.I adore American Idol, but also love The Voice, Glee, X Factor and more!
Follow Me!

  • ladymctech

    Could this man just return to obscurity now?

  • Marko

    Retard, and all the versions of this word in any language, definitely is offensive.

  • HermeticallySealed

    If he is the exemplar of being “cultured,” I’d rather not be.

  • MichaelG

    The best way to acquire “culture” and enlightenment is through education. This man is not only lacking the intellectual and aesthetic training required to acquire culture, he seems to have no common sense. What an idiot, indeed.

  • MV007

    The joke is offensive but I’ve never completely understood the outcry over using the word retard. I mean I understand it, I just don’t think its the same as other words like the N word or the F word for homosexuals. Is “Dumb” offensive too?

  • Dewayne Boyd

    haha. Does this guy actually work for a living? Maybe there’s an opening to apply for soon if he does.

  • mjsbigblog

    “Dumb” is a generic word, meaning anyone who has a low IQ for any reason.

    “Retard” is specific. It refers to people with intellectual handicaps. Using the word “retard” to mock someone who says or does something not so smart IS offensive to people with disabilities.

    The community has come out and declared the word offensive. If they say it is…then it is.

  • Porfivor Nixon

    I had to come in to see what the “R word” was. I had no clue.

  • Ronnie D

    I work with people who have intellectual and physical disabilities. I never really thought the R word carried much weight until I started working with these individuals. I understand some people say it not really meaning it to be offensive, but it still is.

  • Eilonwy_has_an_emu

    Disclaimer: I am about to use words I do not ordinarily use. No slur is intended, but it’s difficult to clearly explain a subtle linguistic distinction without using the actual words.

    “Retard” is more like “Negro” than like “nigger”: it was once widely used with the intention of being a neutral descriptor for people with low IQs and/or developmental delays (not a slang slur) [ETA: as “Negro” was for African-Americans], but it was “neutral” in an era that people in that subgroup now associate with Very Bad Times when even “neutral” was pretty perjorative just because the group was so widely looked-down-upon.

    This is the kind of term where rejecting it does confuse people not-in-the-subgroup because we were taught that the word was “neutral” and not a slur. But it comes with so much cultural baggage that it doesn’t feel neutral to the people it’s being used to describe.

    Calling a neurologically standard person a “retard” is definitely a slur and always has been, though.

  • Incipit

    Great idea!!

  • JudinNH

    Why is he living in the US? He really needs to be back where everyone is as cultured as he.

  • Eric Ascher

    I don’t watch dancing with the stars anyway, but I certainly wouldn’t want to if he was there. Good move ABC for excluding him.

  • MV007

    Dumb has a specific meaning. Colloquially it does mean what you say. But the definition is about a person who can’t speak. I don’t see why this is acceptable and “Retard” isn’t. I’m also not sure that the community can exactly come out and declare something. Clearly those related to the mentally handicapped have spoken. They take offense on behalf of those actually challenged. I’m not sure that one who is truly mentally handicapped can understand when a word becomes a pejorative.

  • Eilonwy_has_an_emu

    I’m not sure that one who is truly mentally handicapped can understand when a word becomes a pejorative.

    One of the baggers I sometimes see at grocery stores visibly has Down Syndrome, and those are exactly the sort of people who used to be called “retarded.” He’s smart enough to bag groceries in a plausible way, so I’d assume he’s smart enough to grasp when he’s being mocked, even if he can’t formulate a linguistic defense for using one word over another. (Either way, he’s doing nicely and shouldn’t be mocked.)

  • MV007

    I agree that if the person is being mocked they can probably understand it. But I’m talking about the situation where the “normal” person is called a “retard”. Can said handicapped person then understand that they too are being insulted even though the insult is not directed at them? Maybe they can, I don’t know. My, albeit limited experience with the mentally challenged would tell me that they wouldn’t know they are being mocked unless its pretty direct.

  • Eilonwy_has_an_emu

    Well, let’s say I call some older woman a “cow.”

    Actual cattle are quite certain not to register an opinion, and they’re not even as likely as dolphins or household pets to understand more than tone of voice. But it’s still clear from context that it’s very, very unlikely I’m doing anything other than being mocking and mean when I use the term on non-cattle.

    Likening a person to a group that’s considered “inferior” is an insult. It’s not even that tightly related to the group’s preferred neutral term… in common parlance, telling a straight male that he’s “gay” is considered roughly as insulting as calling him a “fag.” People who don’t consider the group inferior tend not to make the comparisons in the first place. (Disclaimer: I do not consider homosexuals to be inferior… but I also wouldn’t call somebody “gay” in order to make any sort of point about their behavior.)

  • MV007

    I agree its most definitely an insult to the person on the receiving end of the name calling. But this is not about the intentional victim. This is about those who are “second-hand” victims so to speak. So the Gay community is collectively insulted everytime someone uses Fag in a derogatory fashion. And they’re insulted because they know that they are being insulted and thus they feel put down. If I don’t know that I am being insulted then I won’t know to feel bad about it. I will say though that I could just not be giving mentally handicapped people enough credit and maybe they do know these kinds of things. I’m just intrigued by the philosophical thinking around it. It’s kind of like “If a tree falls in the woods and nobody is around, does it make a sound?”

  • mjsbigblog

    Dumb has a specific meaning. Colloquially it does mean what you say.

    Dumb is rarely used these days to refer to people who can’t speak. Which, unlike those who are intellectually disabled, not really a cohesive group.

    Retard only means one thing, and refers only to a specific group. Using the word to dis an able bodied person is offensive.

    I’m also not sure that the community can exactly come out and declare something.

    Of course they can! And they have.

  • MV007

    This PSA doesn’t exactly say much to me. I’ve seen it run for years and it just tells me that parents of the mentally disabled are really offended by the word. But I’m still not sure this woman or others like her can fully intellectualize why calling an able bodied person a “retard” would be offensive to them. They’ve been told its offensive and thus they repeat that its offensive but thats different then completely grasping the concept.

  • hesh R

    Once again liberals are bent out of shape over a non politically correct comment. You people need to relax.

  • Matthew Kitson

    If anyone is uncultured, its that sleazeball

  • mjsbigblog

    But I’m still not sure this woman or others like her can fully intellectualize why calling an able bodied person a “retard” would be offensive to them.

    Do you know anything about the young woman in this video? Her name is Lauren Potter. She’s a 23 year old with Down Syndrome. She is a high school graduate and and actress who plays a recurring character named Becky Jakcson on Glee.

    In that capacity, she has to memorize lines and deliver them. Which she does. Her comic timing is actually pretty good. I feel fairly certain that she understands when she’s being mocked or dissed, and what the ramifications of using the word “retard” means.

    The intellectually disabled run a long a wide spectrum. Some are high functioning and are able to understand a lot of things. More than you might think

  • Guest

    During my sophomore year of high school we had a “Spread the Word to End the Word” assembly (“the word” being the R-Word). At the assembly, multiple students with intellectual disabilities spoke about how hurtful and offensive it was to hear people carelessly use the R-word. They very much understood the situation and that they were being mocked. Because of the range of severity of intellectual disabilities not everyone who has a intellectual disability can understand that they are being mocked but plenty of them can and plenty of them find it extremely hurtful.

  • fuzzywuzzy

    The worst part about this asshole is that he doesn’t accept any responsibility for his offensive behavior or language.

  • chillj

    I did the same. I knew one person who it upset very much, who was acutely aware of his “difference.” That said, many people do not know it is out of fashion, and the agency I worked for, not to mention the sate agency, only recently managed to take it out of its name.

  • disqus_l9306FWZtD

    You stated: I’m not sure that one who is truly mentally handicapped can understand when a word becomes a pejorative.”

    Some of my Spe. Ed. students certainly DO know and have been upset by the term used as an insult. One incident stands out in my mind which I am not posting here.

  • Bobbi

    I must admit that I am taking some perverse pleasure in Juan Pablo’s gaffes and insults, although I don’t agree with the things he’s said. ABC was so thrilled with women’s reaction to him, that they obviously didn’t really bother to vet this idiot. He’s done nothing but embarrass them all season. I bet they’ll be more careful next time around!

  • Miz

    My 10 year old nephew, who was a pediatric stroke victim, certainly understands that calling someone a ‘retard’ is a cruel insult.

  • Miz

    When someone pointed at my nephew and laughed saying, ‘look at the retard’, I can guarantee you that he understood he wasn’t being complimented. He didn’t learn that word from his parents. It’s not a word they use.

    I think you need to get out and spend some time with lesser abled people to get an education and learn empathy.

  • jobeob987

    Okay, it’s official. JP is a jerk and he can’t blame it on the language barrier, either. I’d love it if the last two contestants walked before the final rose. Who’d want this guy? Worst. Bachelor. Ever.

  • usedtobelucy

    Ya think maybe, sitting there on the sidelines, he took a lot of footballs to the head?

  • usedtobelucy

    I wouldn’t be surprised if, in his homeland, he accuses everybody he offends of lacking sufficient “culture” since they haven’t spent time in the States. … Something tells me he’s an equal-opportunity clueless jerk.

  • ladymctech

    We shall hope that ABC is more careful. But IMO, the premise of the Bachelor shows an overall lack of care or respect for the institution of marriage, so I am not surprised that this idiot slipped by and into the role of the Bachelor. Nor, do I feel sorry for ABC for any embarrassment that this behavior has caused.
    There was a short video available as a link from the homepage yesterday that talked about Juan’s living arrangements with his parents. I applaud the ladies who left the show when they realized what a lousy catch this guy would have been.

  • ladymctech

    I am the mother of a child who has an IEP (individualized education plan) and we go on the war path whenever someone inappropriately uses the R word.

  • Mikas

    He’s not lying. Here in South American the word “retard” can be the same as “moron” or “stupid”. It is not a big deal (over here). I’m not a fan of the guy.. but in this case, I can’t really blame him.

  • Bobbi

    Agree with that completely! I’m just enjoying ABC’s embarrassment. They did this to themselves.

  • Bobbi

    He’s lived in the United States since 1998. In sixteen years, he seems to have absorbed very little of things that are important here. I think blaming all these gaffes on his background, is simply his fall back position when he screws up, yet again. Very weak excuse he’s using, imo.